improve your marriage through tantra

I was chatting – or shall we say’ having communication’ with my 21 year old nephew yesterday about the flat which he shares with 4 other guys and 5 girls.  He told me that the girls are always quarrelling and have all fallen out with one another, whereas the guys seem to get on much better. When I asked him what he thought the reason was, he said that  guys are less complicated – they talk about common interests, like football and if they dont see eye to eye, they just move on to another subject…. I was intrigued by this, and it reminded me of an article I read recently on www.oprah.com entitled:

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

“So, I wonder, does this explain why, when I reach out and tell Hugh I’m feeling isolated from him—on the assumption that this will foster closeness—he gets defensive or withdraws? Do my verbal attempts to reestablish intimacy make him feel inadequate? Is that why he gets that glazed look in his eye and is suddenly compelled to watch men tossing balls on TV?

When a man feels shamed by a woman’s criticism, his body is flooded with cortisol, a stress hormone whose effect is decidedly unpleasant. A woman experiences a similar cortisol rush whenever her husband shouts at her, ignores her, or otherwise does something that scares her and seems to threaten their bond.”

 Of course, its the age-old argument about the difference between men and women, and their opposing needs with regard to communication.  We all have to find our own answers, but naturally, here at tantra massage london in kensington, we feel that instead of talking, giving our partner a wonderful, blissful tantra massage can contribute to restoring the loving feelings – it really is a skill that everyone can learn.

 

 

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