secrets of tantric massage


What is the secret of Tantric Massage?

Are there any secrets left in our modern culture, where answers to anything can be found at the click of a mouse?

Bede Griffiths, the British Benedictine monk who lived in India and became a noted yogi, said:

‘For me, the great discovery in India is the discovery of the sacred. In india, everything is sacred: the earth is sacred, food, water and taking a bath are all sacred, a building is sacred.’

What does this really mean?

Here in the west, we have lost this understanding and attitude. We have become used to instant gratification. But the problem with instant gratification is that the experience does not last….By its nature it is fleeting – and one desire leads to another and another and another……

Sacredness implies honouring a deeper part of ourselves, which leads to more permanent contentment, fulfilment, inner peace and the feeling of total satisfaction .The experience of being in the moment, rather than doing.

This is what we all really want, but there is an underlying pressure in our society to strive to compete, to achieve, to spend , to perform . These are the things we are taught to do. Noone teaches us simply to be and to honour our deepest essence. So although it should be the simplest thing to do, it has become the hardest.

This applies to all areas of life, but here we are discussing tantric massage. Many of our visitors nowadays are so stressed by the time they arrive here, that they even find it difficult to just lie on the massage table and BE.

So let us look more closely at the different issues.

The body

According to Ayurveda, the human body consists of 72,000 nadis, or subtle nerve channels, which cannot be seen by the physical eye, and 107 marma points, which are the neuro-muscular junction boxes of the body. In order for the body to truly relax, it is helpful to work not only on releasing the tension in the muscles, but also on restoring and revitalizing the energy flow. The subtle energy needs to be unblocked and re-directed to flow through the energetic pathways . This enables the individual to become more vibrant and alive, as well as relaxed.

Massage styles with long strokes, such as Abhyanga or Esalen-style massage, which encompass the entire body, rather than massaging just the legs, or just the back separately are helpful in this process . A skilled masseuse can enable the receiver to experience his/her body as an organic whole . The entire body includes the genitals and the entire energetic system.

The mind

Our minds are very subtle instruments, easily affected by the atmosphere around us, as well as by our own thoughts.

Clients come to us with many different issues on their mind. They may feel guilty, nervous, ashamed, shy, unsure whether they will receive what they are looking for. So it is very important for them to be greeted with an attitude of acceptance and understanding,. When a masseuse empathises with and honours the client, this helps his/her mind to calm down spontaneously. We also teach basic meditation and deep breathing techniques, which combined with the peaceful vibration in our studio, all help to still the mind and encourage the flow of internal energy throughout the body.

This may all sound quite simple and obvious, but energy is a subtle thing. Keeping a studio clean and beautiful and lighting candles is one thing, but maintaining an upflifting vibration in the atmosphere is another. It helps if meditation has been practiced in the room, or if mantras are played for long periods of time and if the masseuse is a meditator. Mantras are said to purify the atmosphere and the feeling of peace can be very tangible and can help lift the mind out of its habitual patterns of thinking.

Some clients have a tendency to get into their own individual fantasies while receiving the massage, particularly during the more arousing part. We do not discourage this , as it is important to feel at ease. But we do encourage them to become an observer, a witness to the the workings of the mind and senses.
The more we are able to do this, the deeper we go within – thoughts dissolve as if by magic and bodily sensations become much more powerful. This is basic meditation. And it is not hard work, it is a very natural process.


Some people, who are in a committed relationship, may have a sense of guilt about receiving a sensual massage from someone who is not their partner. However, sometimes their partner is not open to the idea of accompanying them. We explain that a tantric massage is different from a purely sensual or erotic massage.

They may be receiving the tantric massage from a stranger, but our tantric masseuses are qualified and have been trained to lead them to a certain experience – which they can then share and develop with their partner at home. Of course they are always welcome to come for tantric tuition, on their own or as a couple, and will receive even more personalised instruction. Many single clients come to us with a view to preparing themselves for a future relationship.

The idea is not to titillate the senses. The individual is encouraged to go deep within and to access the inner feelings, which are much deeper and more satisfying . This can lead to a total body experience which can be extremely powerful.

It is important to honour oneself and consequently one’s partner. To see the partner as sacred and to treat one another with the utmost respect. This will lead to a flowing meditation, in which each person is able to actually feel the love and respect in their heart. and flow from that place. We emphasise that there are no goals. The idea is to go with the flow of the inner experience . These inner feelings and sensations come from a raised consciousness and are far more powerful,blissful and totally satisfying than the outer senses.

Rigidity dissolves when the pressure to do and to perform melts away. It is replaced by a blissful feeling of inner connectedness, which leads to a much more spontaneous and flexible interaction between a couple. They understand that there is not only one way to be together or to do something. Nothing is wrong or right. They just both need to be in the moment. So, for example if a man loses his erection, that is not a problem – sexual or sensual play can still continue. If one of the partners is not feeling sexy, the other can give them a massage. There is an infinite variety of ways to connect.

These inner feelings can be accessed and strengthened whether an individual simply comes for a tantric massage , or whether he/she has tantric tuition ,or decides to bring a partner for tuition. Once the feelings have been experienced, they can grow deeper, more fulfilling and even more explosive with time and practice. It is a question of turning the attention within, instead of without.

To quote Osho:

‘ In your body there exists a subtle current of electricity, very subtle. But the subtler it is, the deeper it goes. It is not very visible. Tantra is alchemy, it can transform your centers… it is like bringing electricity into your house. Then you can turn it on and off whenever you want…. You have to imbibe the Tantra spirit – it is not a technique to be learned.’

We have also quoted Osho on this subject in a previous ARTICLE

That is part of the secret of sacredness, of being rather than doing – the secret of tantric massage and what differentiates it from a regular sensual or erotic massage.

7 Responses to “Secret of Tantric Massage”

  1. Arun Kumar Tiwari

    the art of being…….ah what a sacred bliss that is…… it happens almost all the time……during tantric massage sessions yes…..but also much after the session in that sacred eternal longing that never ceases…….nice post as always eva

  2. Stewart B Nixon

    I am now living in a retirement facility in
    Oregon, U.S.A. and could you refer me to a specific place, if possible near Bend, Oregon where I could received genuine tantric massage, rather than going all the way over to Great Britain.

    Thanking you in advance,


  3. Pham

    What exactly the difference between a tantric massage and erotic massage? I once was in a strip club in St. Pete – Zavistbar, except for the show I ordered an erotic massage. When I told this to my friend, he said that it looks like a tantric massage that he had in Thailand. Is it normal that we have a similar experience?

    • Eva Evan

      From my point of view, I addressed this question in our FAQ section:

      in the section entitled: Secret of our Tantric Massage:

      “We often get asked whether our massage is a sensual massage or an erotic massage. Erotic teasing or titillation implies keeping the mind and imagination busy and desiring more and more variety to keep up the interest. We use the teasing aspect of eroticism to heighten the senses up to a certain point, but then the senses are drawn inwards, the internal energy rises up and the entire being is flooded with peace

      The magic of tantra is the experience of the inner stillness which lies within each one of us. .”


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