tantric massage and mindfulness

  Tantric massage and mindfulness have become buzzwords Both terms are used a lot nowadays, but few people really know what either of them mean. Mindfulness is being promoted by university professors, spiritual leaders, celebrities, as well as the NHS. It is being recommended to overcome depression, stress and over-thinking. But what is it? And what is its connection with tantric massage?   Since mindfulness really comes from the Buddhist tradition, here is a quote from Thich Nhat Hahn, the inspirational Zen Master: “Living mindfully and with concentration, we see a deeper reality and are able to witness….. without fear, anger or despair.”   Jon Kabat-Zinn, a famous American Buddhist teacher of mindful meditation, puts it like this: “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally…… it is being alive and knowing it.”   And in the words of Bodhipaksa: “Mindfulness is the gentle effort to be continuously present with experience”   So different teachers explain it in different ways. For our purposes during a tantric massage, it helps us to be aware that we are not our thoughts. With the help of deep breathing, we can connect with ourself in a… Read more »

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male and female sexual energy

The difference between male and female sexual energy has intrigued us throughout the ages. We only have to look at current book and newspaper titles to see that the subject is still on our minds:   – Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus – The Secret to Mind-Blowing Orgasms – How Men’s Brains are Wired Differently than Women’s (from Scientific American) – Nurture your Feminine Side (The Chopra Centre) The ordinary male must ejaculate often   or he will become frustrated, emotionally irritable and have little control over his mind. However it is not necessary that the build up of sexual energy should cause such symptoms. It is possible to learn to circulate the energy throughout the entire body, leading to a strengthening of the entire energy body and a rejuvenation of the physical. Through Tantric meditation, one can radiate orgasmic states throughout the entire body with or without a partner. Exchanging sexual energy with your partner and circulating and blending it throughout your bodies simply cannot be compared with ordinary orgasm With ordinary orgasm a small amount of sexual energy is built up and then released from the testicles in men and the ovaries in women,… Read more »

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secrets of tantric massage

    What is the secret of Tantric Massage? Are there any secrets left in our modern culture, where answers to anything can be found at the click of a mouse? Bede Griffiths, the British Benedictine monk who lived in India and became a noted yogi, said: ‘For me, the great discovery in India is the discovery of the sacred. In india, everything is sacred: the earth is sacred, food, water and taking a bath are all sacred, a building is sacred.’ What does this really mean? Here in the west, we have lost this understanding and attitude. We have become used to instant gratification. But the problem with instant gratification is that the experience does not last….By its nature it is fleeting – and one desire leads to another and another and another…… Sacredness implies honouring a deeper part of ourselves, which leads to more permanent contentment, fulfilment, inner peace and the feeling of total satisfaction .The experience of being in the moment, rather than doing. This is what we all really want, but there is an underlying pressure in our society to strive to compete, to achieve, to spend , to perform . These are the things we… Read more »

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tantric massage and sexual confidence

    Can tantric massage boost sexual confidence? First one needs to understand what sexual confidence really is.   We could all start by asking ourself the question: ‘Am I a sexually confident person?’   Following is a pertinent quote from Osho,  who was a  popular guru, sometimes known as the ‘sex’ guru’ of the seventies: “ All religions have turned man against his own energies. Sex is man’s whole energy, his life energy. So through condemning sex…. and preventing the orgasmic experience, religions have made men and women slaves. And the basic strategy is :’because sex is the most powerful energy in you, sex should be condemned, a guilt should be created. Then the individual has a split….. his nature is sensuous, sexual and his mind is full of garbage against it. So man is afraid of sex as far as the mind is concerned, but his biology has nothing to do with the mind.The biology has its own way of functioning, so it will draw him towards sex and his mind will be standing there continuously condemning him. So he makes love, but in a hurry. He is hurrying because he feels he is doing something wrong. The… Read more »

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sexological bodyworker

      Celeste is now a qualified Sexological Bodyworker.   She completed the course (see details in my previous blog article   https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-and-sexological-bodywork/) and received the qualification because she has been very much in demand for our Tantric Therapy/Tuition sessions for several years now,and she wanted to study the subject in more depth. The idea was to get more knowledge, feedback and a recognised qualification. The t-shirt she received on graduating shows that the organisation has a sense of humour, which is always a plus. Personally, I wasn’t too sure what a Sex Geek is, so I have searched the term and come up with some interesting definitions. The Urban Dictionary definition is: “Someone who takes pride in learning, applying and spreading throughout their lives, accurate sexual health information, effective communication skills and relationship blackbelt knowhow regardless of sexual identity and practices” http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Sex+Geek   Sex-Positive Podcasts “that helped me realize, I’m a Sex Geek   I identify as a ‘sex geek’ It’s a term that was coined and made popular by renowned sex educator Reid Mihalko and I’ve been one since before there even was a term for it…….. ” https://medium.com/@lizandrade/sex-positive-podcasts-that-helped-me-realize-i-m-a-sex-geek-6e21a99aebe9#.jx6j2r26l   10 Ways to become a Sexy Geek Confidence… Read more »

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internal clitoris - betty dodson

  Betty Dodson is a well-known sex educator I have mentioned her before, in previous articles on this blog. For women, in particular, it is well worth reading some of the many articles on her comprehensive website: http://www.dodsonandross.com   She has written countless articles and produced many videos on all kinds of subjects related to women’s sexuality.   In the video above, she draws a vagina, including the clitoris and I thought it would be interesting, helpful and educational for both women and men to watch.   In fact, it seems that it was only in 2009 that researchers produced the first complete three-dimensional sonography of the stimulated clitoris, similar to the blue and yellow picture above.   Before that, there were only incomplete or inaccurate textbook descriptions and nobody knew about the full anatomical scope of the excited clitoris until the late 1990s, when an MRI was used to study its structure in its ‘live’ state.   The researchers worked for 3 years without proper funding and it is thanks to them that we now understand how the erectile tissue of the clitoris engorges and surrounds the vagina – a complete breakthrough that explains how what we once considered… Read more »

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tantric massage and sexological bodywork

  Tantric massage and Sexological Bodywork work well together I never labelled my practice ‘tantric massage’ until around 2005 when suddenly everyone started using the internet and I noticed websites appearing, calling themselves ‘tantric massage london’ etc. So I decided that if they can call themselves tantric massage, I will also. I never had any illusions about the fact that tantra is something entirely different, because, as it happened, my original spiritual teacher, who I met in 1974, came from a tantric tradition. But the word tantra was hardly ever used among us. We received initiation, practiced meditation and received the transmission of energy. We were also given several practices – none of which included massage !! SkyDancing Tantra In the seventies, Margot Anand created a system which she called ‘Skydancing Tantra’ It included tantric massage and encompassed many of the teachings of Osho on sexuality (see my blog article on the origin of tantric massage). Osho Osho, an Indian guru who became popular in the 1970’s, kept stressing the fact that in the West. our religions have created a split between body and soul, which has led to guilt, shame and conflict over sexuality. So he encouraged his followers,… Read more »

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tantra-tantric tuition

      What happens in your Tantra-Tantric Tuition ? Is a question that we often get asked by prospective clients. So I thought I would write an article on the subject, although of course, like all our sessions, the Tantra-Tantric tuition is adapted to each individual. I will be writing here about Tantra-Tantric tuition for men because this is where we get most of the questions. We make it a pre-requisite that anyone wanting to have Tantra-Tantric tuition should experience a tantric massage with us first. The reason for this is that one learns by receiving as well as by giving, and receiving is part of the learning experience. If you want to be able to give a wonderful tantric massage, you need to have experienced it on yourself first. It is possible to book a 2 hour appointment – and then the first hour would consist of the massage and the second hour would be the tuition. You do not need to book a series of sessions in advance but can take them individually, and decide at the end of each appointment whether you would like to book another one. That way, you can feel free and do… Read more »

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map of the vagina

  This map of the vagina is for your convenience Vaginas are a source of mystery and fascination to most men. Questions about vaginas, the location of the clitoris, what women like and dont like, are questions which are often asked in our tantric tuition sessions. At first, clients can be hesitant or embarrassed to ask the questions they really want to ask, feeling that they should probably know the answers. They feel that at their age, they should have learned whatever there is to know. However women’s bodies are a mystery, even to women themselves. So it is not surprising that there is often a lack of open communication amongst couples. Maybe it is easier to discuss these things with a person who is neutral and non-judgmental, and experienced enough to be able to answer any question about a woman’s anatomy, and what most women like and do not like. Celeste offers tantric tuition sesssions at our beautiful studio in Kensington on mondays and tuesdays. She will be available on December 8, 9 , 15 and 16, before she goes away for one month at Christmas. She will be back in the New Year, on Monday January 19th. Why… Read more »

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tantric massage london kensingon

  The majority of people who come to our Tantric Massage London Kensington clinic, both men and women, come on their own. Sometimes they tell their partner, but the majority do not, because they feel their partner may object, feel jealous, feel insecure, or simply will not understand why they should come to us. However, we are getting more and more brave couples who come together, as a couple, to enhance the sensual side of their relationship. I call them brave, because it does require courage for a woman to have her partner lie on a massage table, and be aroused to orgasm by another woman, even if that woman is a tantric masseuse. In the same way, it takes courage for a man to admit that he could improve his skills and be taught how to give more pleasure to his wife. And they are also brave because, rather than give up trying to work on their relationship,and come to us secretly, they come openly and united as a couple. Once the initial step has been taken, and inhibitions and fears have been set aside, and the appointment has been made, couples do feel so many benefits. Here is… Read more »

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valentine's day

What are you planning to do on Valentine’s Day this year? I will be leaving for the warmth, sunshine and spiritual inspiration of India. But for those of you who will be staying in London, what better way to treat yourself than to experience the  peace and bliss of your own inner sunshine. Rather than spend the evening in an over-crowded, noisy restaurant or bar, why not REALLY enjoy yourself and book an ecstatic tantric massage session…If you have a partner, you could also have a tantric tuition session together, or if you dont have a partner, an individual tuition and tantra coaching session with Celeste is available here, in our lovely tantric massage studio in Kensington, Central London, or, if you prefer, in your hotel room. While you decide, here is some light-hearted advice from a couple of agony aunts.. on one of the most asked about questions regarding people’s sex lives: X: Have been in a relationship for five years now and have a rather difficult problem. The trouble is the longer it’s gone on the harder it is to actually tell him. Despite having a good regular sex life, my partner has never made me come –… Read more »

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tantric massage

Tantric massage is eliciting a lot of interest nowadays and we get countless telephone calls from potential new clients who suddenly decide to find out about tantric massage while they are driving their car, or just walking on the street They ask all sorts of questions and when I suggest that it is not easy to explain tantric massage in a few minutes and I suggest that they read the articles on our website, which will provide all  the information on tantric massage that they may need,  the answer usually is : ‘I cant because I’m driving’   or ‘Im on my mobile and can’t access all the details your site‘… or ‘I’m at work and can’t spend time looking at your website’ or ‘a friend gave me your telephone no. and I dont have the website address‘….. etc. etc… In our modern stressful world, everyone seems to be in a hurry. Even making a decision to book a tantric massage seems to be fraught with stress . We do try to maintain a nice , calm, peaceful atmosphere, so that when you arrive here, you can leave your worries, tension, guilt, frustrations outside, and just forget about them, and hopefully… Read more »

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tantric massage london

                        What is sensual massage and what is the tantra of relationsip ? If you’ve been reading the newspapers recently, you will have been struck by yet another flurry of stories about famous men and their affairs: Arnold Schwarzeneger and his ‘love child’, Chris Huhne and the speeding ticket, Dominique Strauss-Kahn the ex-head of the IMF and then there is the ‘famous footballer’ who was finally named – there was even an article in the Independent entitled “Is Anyone Faithful Any More?” in which a relationship expert states that “nowadays we have a problem with instant gratificiation” and the internet is partly to blame – “It’s so easy to hook up on the internet.”                   The article also quoted John Gottman, emeritus professor at the University of Washington, who is probably the world’s leading expert on relationships and marital stability. One of his most interesting findings concerns gay relationships:     “in 200 years heterosexual relationships will be where gay and lesbian relationships are today – crucial in these relationsips is honesty about sex….. Gays and lesbians are more honest. They talk explicitly… Read more »

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Tantric Tuition for Men

                  Part 1 – Tantric Tuition for Men When men come to Tantric Massage London and ask for a tantric tuition session, the two main things they want to learn more about are: 1. Ejaculation Control 2. How to really give pleasure to a woman   Ejaculation Control Many men experience concerns with premature ejaculation in some form or another during their life, and hope to learn some techniques to help them to last longer. A large majority find that when they are simply lying on the massage table, with no pressure to perform, their ‘premature ejaculation’ problem disappears, and they are able to last naturally for far longer than they thought, with no special effort on their part. There are several reasons for this. A lot of so called premature ejaculation issues arise from the pressure to perform and please a partner. When that pressure is removed, very often the problem evaporates. We encourage our clients to get in touch with their passive side and experience the feelings and sensation in their body, and to enjoy receiving unconditional touch – where there is no need to respond or reciprocate. In this way,… Read more »

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tantric therapy/tantric tuition

  This will be the first of a few articles on our tantric therapy /tantric tuition sessions We offer these sessions here at our Tantric Massage studio in the heart of Kensington.I would like to first of all lay the groundwork of all our thinking. There is a lot of confusion nowadays, about esoteric terms such as chakras, kundalini, shakti, etc. and all of a sudden, numerous so-called experts have sprung up, writing articles on these subjects. Nowadays, it is too easy to read a few articles or books, and overnight become an ‘authority’ on subjects such as tantra. Only a truly realised master can convey the truth on these subjects – and again, in today’s world, one needs a lot of discrimination in order to tell who is a truly realised master, and who is not. This is why we do not claim to raise your kundalini… we do not call ourselves Tantric Goddesses and we do not indulge in talk about chakras or rituals. During the past 40 years, I have been involved in a deep study, firstly of the many branches of  transpersonal and humanistic psychology. I qualified as a co-counsellor, and also as a Fischer-Hoffman therapist… Read more »

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why men stray

I enjoyed reading this article on why men stray partly because of the underlying humour, and partly also because it highlights some of the paradoxes that we all face in our lives. Here are some snippets from the article: ‘Every man faces the battle between the urge for monogamy and promiscuity…’ ‘The wish to be free and the  wish to belong…. the difficult bit has always been balancing the yearning for an impressive sexual CV and the longing for a wife, family and home….’ ‘Some men stay early… some men stray late…. And men spend a lifetime trying to negotiate a peace settlement between these most basic of instincts…’ ‘Some men stray for a bit and then they settle down. That is what many women find difficult to accept … sometimes a man strays not because he is a heartless fornicating bastard, but simply because he hasnt yet met the right girl…’ The author then gives examples of 3 well-known men: – Tiger Woods:  ‘ I thought I could get away with everything I wanted to…. I felt I had worked hard and deserved to enjoy all the temptations around me…’ – Paul Newman: ‘You dont go out for hamburger… Read more »

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tantric massage london men are from mars

  Men are from Mars has become a saying recognised by all, so there is no need for explanation. We always love it when clients  give us feedback, because it is one sure way of truly finding out what they are experiencing, and it helps us also to learn and grow and adapt our way of working. We recently received an interesting email from a client, the day after his session with us – following are a few sentences from his email which we found particularly interesting: ‘Please pass on my heartfelt thanks to Celeste for yesterday – 24 hr later Im still feeling blissful and serene….. The overall effect was amazing and its the first time Ive felt that I could understand what you mean about ‘moving the energy around’ and experiencing sensations ‘with the whole body.’ I became interested in tantra because I love to massage my wife (who obviously loves it too !) and I wanted to be able to manage my own levels of excitement in a way which allow me to be present in the moment rather than trying to do the usual male things of thinking about tricky physics problems or trying to name the FA Cup… Read more »

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sensually awaken

One of our most popular sessions recently, has been the Tantric Massage Tuition session You learn to sensually awaken one another and we teach you how to give a sensual tantric massage to a partner. Many women feel unfulfilled because of a lack of real intimacy with their partner –  their sex lives have become repetitive and routine, but often, they do not communicate or  discuss it with their man, either because of their own insecurity and lack of self-confidence, or  because they dont dare to hope for anything better, and may be afraid of offending him. The same is true for men. They often say that they love their wife, but feel a split between being turned on and actually feeling love. They want to experience love while making love to their wife. In order to pleasure our partner, we need to know how to pleasure ourself. Our conditioning teaches us that we should always think about the other person, and that it is selfish to just think about ourself. But one of the secrets of better lovemaking is to be totally present, in the moment, and to focus on what feels good to oneself. If both partners are able to do this, they will find that they… Read more »

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