tantra

Tantra is probably the one of India’s yoga traditions which has become the most sensational, exotic and dramatic. It has come to fascinate the mind of the modern western world and has been interpreted in the most bizarre and entertaining ways. Tantra seems to offer us everything – plenty of heightened pleasure in sex, money, healing, in fact there are tantra methods for achieving all human desires. And what is more, one doesn’t have to renounce anything or become an ascetic as in other yoga traditions, because tantra is supposed to encompass everything. However, as in all things, we need to learn discrimination. We need to find out the difference between real Tantra and the superficial distortions which have become the norm in popular culture and are easily found everywhere. But how to tell who is a genuine teacher? The ‘New Age’ has embraced Tantra. There are so-called spiritual teachers on every street corner nowadays.New Age approaches to massage, body work, pranic healing etc. may have health benefits, but they do not lead to the deeper understanding and experience which require intense spiritual practices of meditation, mantras, pranayama…. True Tantric teachings are extremely deep and profound and include some of… Read more »

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osho tantra

Osho, formerly known as Rajneesh,  introduced his version of Tantra to the West in the 1960’s. He was controversial, but he was an intelligent and prolific writer. Here are some quotes from Osho: Tantra is the natural way to God, the normal way to God. The object is to become so completely instinctual, so mindless, that we merge with ultimate nature – that the woman disappears and becomes a door for the ultimate, the man disappears and becomes a door for the ultimate…This is the tantric definition of our sexuality: the return to absolute innocence, absolute oneness. The greatest sexual thrill is not a search for thrills, but a silent waiting, utterly relaxed, utterly mindless. One is conscious, conscious only of being conscious. One is consciousness. One is contented but there is no content to it. And then there is a great beauty, great benediction.   Question: ‘What is tantric sex… a sex which is a meditation based on certain techniques?’ Osho: If you are too technique oriented, you will miss the mystery of Tantra. It is pseudo-Tantra that is based on techniques, because if techniques are there, ego will be controlling. Then you will be doing it – and… Read more »

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secret india

  ‘A Search In Secret India’ by Paul Brunton – excerpts   Paul Brunton  (1898-1981) was a British philosopher, mystic and traveller. His ‘Search in Secret India’ and the other books he wrote, had a major influence on the spread of Eastern yoga and mysticism to the West. Here he is putting questions to Ramana Maharshi:   “You mean that it is perfectly possible to conduct such mental investigation into oneself?” “Assuredly! It is possible to go inwards until the last thought ‘I ‘ gradually vanishes.”     What is left?” I query. “Will a man then become quite unconscious, or will he become an idiot?” “Not so! On the contrary, he will attain that consciousness which is immortal, and he will become truly wise, when he has awakened to his true self, which is the real nature of man.”   “But surely the sense of ‘ I’ must also pertain to that?” I persist. “The sense of ‘ I’ pertains to the person, the body and brain,” replies the Maharishee calmly.   ” When a man knows his true self for the first time, something else arises from the depths of his being and takes possession of him. That… Read more »

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slow down

On how to slow down I was struck recently by an article written by Carl Honore, on the subject of slow sex.. He writes: ‘The other day a buddy of mine was making love to his new girlfriend when her IPhone beeped with an incoming text message. Like any guy, he hoped she would ignore the alert – or even fail to notice it altogether. The opposite happened. The woman opened her eyes, grabbed the phone from the bedside table and read the message. She then typed out a short reply. “To be fair, she apologised and suggested we go back to the sex” says my crestfallen friend, ” But it was kind of a mood-killer.” Two conclusions can be drawn from an anecdote like this. The first is that my friend maybe needs to brush up on his sexual technique. The second is that his girlfriend’s behaviour reveals something alarming about the way we live nowadays. In this media-drenched, mutitasking, always-on age, many of us have forgotten how to unplug and immerse ourselves completely in the moment. We have forgotten how to slow down.’ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/carl–honore/in-praise-of-slow–sex_b_322026.html   The reason this article attracted my attention was that this used to happen… Read more »

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at tantric massage london we are spiritual beings

                I thought about the above quote today, because we had a client who asked me about tantra practice.  When I asked him what he meant, his answer was that he didnt at present, have a partner. This answer didnt really make sense to me, and I told him that I thought he should think about what he was really trying to say. In my opinion, the majority of clients who come to us for a tantric massage really want a nice sensual massage. or erotic massage. And there is nothing wrong with that. But some of them dont like to admit it, and use all the tantric terminology, without really understanding it – maybe because they feel shy or embarrassed, and this is their way of covering up that uncomfortable feeling.  Very few are really interested in Tantra in the true sense. And that is also fine. But I do think that it is good to be honest with oneself. Because only then can we feel comfortable in our own skin. Here is a lovely quote from Ramana Maharshi, when he was questioned in his ashram: Visitor: What is the method to… Read more »

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I am that

  Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj said : ‘As long as you identify yourself with body and mind, you are bound to suffer; realize your independence and remain happy. I tell you, this is the secret of happiness. To believe that you depend on things and people for happiness is due to ignorance of your true nature; to know that you need nothing to be happy, except self-knowledge, is wisdom.’ Nisargadatta Maharaj

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Rumi

  This being human is a guest house by Rumi Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all ! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out but some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Rumi (13th Century Sufi Saint)

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improve your marriage through tantra

I was chatting – or shall we say’ having communication’ with my 21 year old nephew yesterday about the flat which he shares with 4 other guys and 5 girls.  He told me that the girls are always quarrelling and have all fallen out with one another, whereas the guys seem to get on much better. When I asked him what he thought the reason was, he said that  guys are less complicated – they talk about common interests, like football and if they dont see eye to eye, they just move on to another subject…. I was intrigued by this, and it reminded me of an article I read recently on www.oprah.com entitled: How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It “So, I wonder, does this explain why, when I reach out and tell Hugh I’m feeling isolated from him—on the assumption that this will foster closeness—he gets defensive or withdraws? Do my verbal attempts to reestablish intimacy make him feel inadequate? Is that why he gets that glazed look in his eye and is suddenly compelled to watch men tossing balls on TV? When a man feels shamed by a woman’s criticism, his body is flooded with… Read more »

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tantric massage explanation of kundalini

                        Maybe the majority of you who come and receive a tantric massage are not really concerned about the kundalini. You come to receive a relaxing and reviving tantric massage and you are more interested in the experience than all the theory But I have to set the record straight, from my point of view because I have  seen so many websites stating that the purpose of tantric massage is  to awaken the kundalini, align the chakras etc…. As always, there is a lot of nonsense  and half-truths spoken by people who have not really gone in depth into the subject,and have no real understanding. So to set the record straight, I would like to insert here a quotation from the great sage Ramana Maharshi, who is maybe the best known and respected master of the past 100 years. This is taken from one of the numerous question and answer sessions with Ramana: Q: The kundalini (primal conscious energy) is said to rise from the base of the spine. Maharshi: ‘That current is ourselves. Mind is the real kundalini. The representation of kundalini as a serpent is merely to assist duller… Read more »

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inspiration

This morning, I read that Steve Jobs has passed away. He was a true pioneer and  such an inspiration to so many people and to the world. He courageously fought his illness as well as the many obstacles which presented themselves along his path. I still remember my first Apple computer, back in California in the early 1980’s – he was a legend already back in those days. Little did I know then, how much I was learning, and how important the computer was to become  and how it would transform  all our lives. This reminds me  of a saying by another inspirational man of our times, Albert Einstein He said: “The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.” And the wonderful saying by the Dalai Lama : “The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” What better inspiration can we need. To my way of thinking, these men were living the true way of tantra on a practical level in their everyday lives (with thanks to Best Year Yet on Facebook)

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tantra -tantric massage london goddess

  Many pretty young  girls and agencies seem to be advertising themselves as offering tantric massage. They are taking advantage of the fact that there is no recognised qualification for tantric massage in this country. and tantra has nothing to do with massage anyway. But they may  think that using the term ‘tantric’ will somehow make them sound more ‘appealing.’ They throw around terms like ‘chakras’, ‘kundalini’  etc. with an obvious lack of understanding of what they are talking about. One of the latest fads I have seen is ‘tantric bondage’ – the mind truly boggles. I have nothing against anyone doing whatever turns them on, but to label these activities as ‘tantric’ is truly a joke. I have never been a great fan of Osho, but he did write well and here is a quote from one of his articles, which is quite appropriate: ‘ There is a basic fallacy that human beings fall into: they find a small truth and rather than discover the whole, the remaining part, they imagine  to fill up the gap….. they can manage to make a system, but the remaining part is simply their invention. ….sexual energy…… should be transformed into higher forms. It is a truth. But what happened is that… Read more »

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shivaratri

Today is Shivaratri It is considered to be  one of the holiest nights of the year, dedicated to the worship of Lord Shiva. Lord Shiva is the one who destroys that which is old and impure in order to make room for a new creation which is pure and divine. He annihilates our egos, our attachments and our ignorance, so that life can begin anew. Below is a rather long, but lovely story Once a King called upon all his wise men and asked them,“Is there a mantra or suggestion which works in every situation, in every circumstance, in every place and in every time. Something which can help me when none of you is available to advise me. Tell me is there any mantra?”   All wise men were puzzled by King’s question. One answer for all questions? Something that works everywhere, in every situation? In every joy, every sorrow, every defeat and every victory? They thought and thought. After a lengthy discussion, an old man suggested something which appealed to all of them. They went to the king and gave him something written on paper. But the condition was that king was not to see it out of curiosity. Only… Read more »

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tantra

  India, as you all know, is the home of Tantra I have just returned from a 2 week stay in Kollur, Karnataka, India. Kollur is the home of the well-known Mookambika Temple which is among the seven most sacred temples in the state of Karnataka. It is said that the image of Goddess Mookambika was installed here by the great Sri Adi Shankara, the revered Hindu saint, who performed years of penance in the area. It is believed that Adi Shankara perceived the idea of having a Mookambika Devi temple at Kollur and himself installed the statue of the deity in the temple some 1200 years ago. It is also said that the Shiva Lingam in front of the goddess, materialised miraculously on its own. Mookambika is regarded as a manifestation of Shakti, Saraswathi and Mahalakshmi. In fact, she symbolises the Supreme Truth or Transcendental Supreme Reality. In the top middle photo, you can see the statue of Goddess Mookambika being paraded around the temple, in a special golden chariot, carried by dozens of temple priests. as well as the individuals who have paid for the event. They usually run as fast as they can, with bells clanging, crowds… Read more »

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erotic massage - dita von teese

dita von teese The Erotica Show opens this year at Olympia London,on November 19. The headline attraction for the show is Dita Von Teese. I am a great admirer of hers – she has such radiance, glamour, style and a very unique quality of elegance.But, looking at the rest of what is on offer made me start to ponder about what erotic or erotic massage really means. Wilkipedia gives an interesting definition of eroticism: “Unlike sensuality, which concentrates on the pleasures of the senses, eroticism is concerned with heightening those pleasures. To achieve that objective, eroticism can involve a delay in sexual gratification in order to intensify the satisfaction level by extending the period of yearning desire.” Perceptions of what is erotic fluctuate. Khajuraho in India, famous for its erotic sculpture, is a very popular tourist destination and is considered to be one of the ‘seven wonders of India.’ The Khajuraho temples don’t contain sexual or erotic art inside the temple or near the deities. The idea is that one must leave one’s sexual desires outside the temple and the inner deity of the temple is pure like the soul, unaffected by sexual desires. But the external carvings depict “twisting,… Read more »

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anger

  How did I learn to deal with my anger? I went to California Esalen, in northern California, was founded in 1962, and became a centre for the ‘human potential’ movement…It was an institute devoted to the exploration of the world of ‘unrealized capacities that lies beyond the imagination.’ It became known for its experimental workshops, the steady influx of philosophers, psychologists, artists and spiritual thinkers, as well as its breathtaking grounds, blessed with natural hotsprings.  The photos above show visitors receiving the renowned naked Esalen massages in the open air and lying in the  hot tubs which are so popular there, and all over  California. I went to live in California in the 1970’s and became involved in the human potential movement and the psychological experimentation which was so popular at the time. I would go to workshops and bang pillows , raging at my parents, and trying to let out all my anger…….but little by little, I realised that the more I screamed, the more angry I was becoming, and the theory that if only I screamed long and hard enough, all my bottled up anger would disappear, did not seem to stand the test of experience. Gradually, it began to make more sense to experience… Read more »

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what is love

What is LOVE? – a popular question   The great mystics talk about Love – and the true meaning of Love on a Universal level: ‘Taking Love out of the personal sphere of relationship and acknowledging how it is part of creation of a fundamental, cellular level… reclaiming the cellular nature of love, the love that belongs to creation, the energy of life which is love. ….   We have isolated ourselves from the real energy of life, so that life no longer nourishes us. There is a separation of spirit and matter…   The secret of love is I am he who I love and he whom I love is me….. you are divine, you are an ocean of love. There is a secret within us…. call it beauty, peace, compassion, the divine centre of your self… we remember the taste of the inner elixir and we make a relationship with it….   We think we are searching for something, but that love is within ourself, and it is searching for you.   The secret is that the essence of everything is love…. if you can be present with it, if you can taste it…. This is all latent within… Read more »

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tantra

    Tantra has many meanings and is a vast subject. Here are the words of three different masters, not necessarily on tantra itself, but on spirituality in general.   ‘The state we call realization is simply being one’s self, not knowing anything or becoming anything. If one has realized he is that which alone is and which alone has always been; he cannot describe that state, he can only be that. Still it is a wonder that to teach this simple truth, there should come into being so many religions, creeds, methods, and the disputes among them. Oh the pity! Oh the pity!                      Ramana Maharshi    ‘I am a cup caught in the hand of Love. If you dont believe me, look in my eyes. Or better still……. listen to my heart.’                                                                Rumi    One day a devotee asked  Swamiji, ” What is mind control?” Throwing a flower in the air Swamiji answered, “See if my mind goes after the flower and gets glued to it, that is the mind going out of control. If I dont’t allow my mind to go out of control and keep it here – that is mind control. Simple !”                                              Sri Shivabalayogi… Read more »

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Sting

I have been practicing Tantric Massage in London since 1992 but it was some years later that suddenly everyone seemed to know the word Tantra, because the singer Sting had publicly claimed that he practiced Tantric sex.   In an interview with Sting in The Guardian on 12 November 2003, the author writes: ‘Sting says he is a lifelong risk-taker. He calls it “following his truth ” and it is why he resigned from a secure teaching job to try to make it in a band. His parents didnt follow their truths, he says and that is, ultimately why they died. “My father couldn’t express his love for his wife. My mother couldn’t express that she needed intimacy and she had the perfect right to find that wherever she could. We were conditioned as a family not to express ourselves “…….   Sting is a famous proponent of tantric sex. I ask him to give the frustrated Guardian readers a few tips. He looks indignant and says its about ‘ a journey’, not “fucking for eight hours”   OK, I say.  “I try to be lighthearted about it” he says “but at the same time, there is some serious information about… Read more »

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