why men stray

I enjoyed reading this article on why men stray partly because of the underlying humour, and partly also because it highlights some of the paradoxes that we all face in our lives. Here are some snippets from the article: ‘Every man faces the battle between the urge for monogamy and promiscuity…’ ‘The wish to be free and the  wish to belong…. the difficult bit has always been balancing the yearning for an impressive sexual CV and the longing for a wife, family and home….’ ‘Some men stay early… some men stray late…. And men spend a lifetime trying to negotiate a peace settlement between these most basic of instincts…’ ‘Some men stray for a bit and then they settle down. That is what many women find difficult to accept … sometimes a man strays not because he is a heartless fornicating bastard, but simply because he hasnt yet met the right girl…’ The author then gives examples of 3 well-known men: – Tiger Woods:  ‘ I thought I could get away with everything I wanted to…. I felt I had worked hard and deserved to enjoy all the temptations around me…’ – Paul Newman: ‘You dont go out for hamburger… Read more »

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wife - tantric chair

It is constantly intriguing to search on google for words relating to sensual massage and tantric massage  and see what comes up…… My latest discovery is the Tantra Chair It is apparently inspired by the  female form … and is for  “people who love sex but cant find the perfect furniture to do it on”….perfect for “divine lovemaking” and “tantric intimacy.” with your wife. It costs $1199 ….. ‘but the things you’ll experience on it are priceless’…….! The manufacturers, in true American style , have publicised it all over the net and it is mentioned in various blogs and discussions. The website states that it comes in 8 different colours and is ‘environmentally friendly’. It doesnt look very comfortable to me…. what does  your wife think?  

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getting in touch

Getting in touch with your feminine side has become a sort of truism. In modern times,there have been many ways of describing the union of Shiva and Shakti…. terms like yin and yang, getting in touch with your feminine side, metrosexual have all become popular at various periods during the past 40 years or so. In the 60’s, we saw the beginning of a subconscious mood amongst men to start trying to appear less macho –  the Rolling Stones would perform on stage with makeup, wearing flamboyant, feminine blouses … they would be followed in the 70’s by David Bowie’s androgynous alter ego Ziggy Stardust. In the 80’s Alice Cooper recorded the song: ‘ In Touch with your Feminine Side. And in the 90’s the term ‘metrosexual’ man became popular – but all this experimentation  also had a certain superficial,  materialistic and commercial side. Below   is a 1960’s  Rolling Stones recording of ‘Angie’. It was the days of ‘Flower Power’ and they are all holding roses, and look quite androgynous, singing a love song to Angie. The 2nd picture  illustrates  and beautifully explains the true symbolism of Shiva and Shakti , which is far deeper and more far-reaching. It reveals how Tantra can be seen as the union of the masculine and the feminine… Read more »

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tantric massage london men are from mars

  Men are from Mars has become a saying recognised by all, so there is no need for explanation. We always love it when clients  give us feedback, because it is one sure way of truly finding out what they are experiencing, and it helps us also to learn and grow and adapt our way of working. We recently received an interesting email from a client, the day after his session with us – following are a few sentences from his email which we found particularly interesting: ‘Please pass on my heartfelt thanks to Celeste for yesterday – 24 hr later Im still feeling blissful and serene….. The overall effect was amazing and its the first time Ive felt that I could understand what you mean about ‘moving the energy around’ and experiencing sensations ‘with the whole body.’ I became interested in tantra because I love to massage my wife (who obviously loves it too !) and I wanted to be able to manage my own levels of excitement in a way which allow me to be present in the moment rather than trying to do the usual male things of thinking about tricky physics problems or trying to name the FA Cup… Read more »

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sensually awaken

One of our most popular sessions recently, has been the Tantric Massage Tuition session You learn to sensually awaken one another and we teach you how to give a sensual tantric massage to a partner. Many women feel unfulfilled because of a lack of real intimacy with their partner –  their sex lives have become repetitive and routine, but often, they do not communicate or  discuss it with their man, either because of their own insecurity and lack of self-confidence, or  because they dont dare to hope for anything better, and may be afraid of offending him. The same is true for men. They often say that they love their wife, but feel a split between being turned on and actually feeling love. They want to experience love while making love to their wife. In order to pleasure our partner, we need to know how to pleasure ourself. Our conditioning teaches us that we should always think about the other person, and that it is selfish to just think about ourself. But one of the secrets of better lovemaking is to be totally present, in the moment, and to focus on what feels good to oneself. If both partners are able to do this, they will find that they… Read more »

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Sting

I have been practicing Tantric Massage in London since 1992 but it was some years later that suddenly everyone seemed to know the word Tantra, because the singer Sting had publicly claimed that he practiced Tantric sex.   In an interview with Sting in The Guardian on 12 November 2003, the author writes: ‘Sting says he is a lifelong risk-taker. He calls it “following his truth ” and it is why he resigned from a secure teaching job to try to make it in a band. His parents didnt follow their truths, he says and that is, ultimately why they died. “My father couldn’t express his love for his wife. My mother couldn’t express that she needed intimacy and she had the perfect right to find that wherever she could. We were conditioned as a family not to express ourselves “…….   Sting is a famous proponent of tantric sex. I ask him to give the frustrated Guardian readers a few tips. He looks indignant and says its about ‘ a journey’, not “fucking for eight hours”   OK, I say.  “I try to be lighthearted about it” he says “but at the same time, there is some serious information about… Read more »

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