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dita von teese The Erotica Show opens this year at Olympia London,on November 19. The headline attraction for the show is Dita Von Teese. I am a great admirer of hers – she has such radiance, glamour, style and a very unique quality of elegance.But, looking at the rest of what is on offer made me start to ponder about what erotic or erotic massage really means. Wilkipedia gives an interesting definition of eroticism: “Unlike sensuality, which concentrates on the pleasures of the senses, eroticism is concerned with heightening those pleasures. To achieve that objective, eroticism can involve a delay in sexual gratification in order to intensify the satisfaction level by extending the period of yearning desire.” Perceptions of what is erotic fluctuate. Khajuraho in India, famous for its erotic sculpture, is a very popular tourist destination and is considered to be one of the ‘seven wonders of India.’ The Khajuraho temples don’t contain sexual or erotic art inside the temple or near the deities. The idea is that one must leave one’s sexual desires outside the temple and the inner deity of the temple is pure like the soul, unaffected by sexual desires. But the external carvings depict “twisting,… Read more »

Wishing you a very happy and prosperous Diwali. Diwali, the Festival of Lights, is considered to be the Indian New Year It is one of the most celebrated Hindu festivals, lasting for 5 days or longer. It is a time of great rejoicing for the upcoming year and a time of offering special pujas (rituals). Diwali is celebrated on a new Moon night when the Moon is not visible. It is the time when Hindus worship the goddess Laxmi, seen as the giver of all comforts and money in this age. The Festival of Lights is the triumph of good over bad, nobility over evil, knowledge over ignorance, happiness over unhappiness May the Festival of Lights bring hope and light into your lives. Below is a virtual Maha Laxmi Aarti – it is a prayer to, and worship of the Goddess Laxmi. As you can see, the goddess is decorated in colourful jewels and all her finery. This is a live ritual, so that those of you who have never experienced a genuine ritual, can click on the link below: AARTI- MAHA LAXMI MAA DIWALI AARTI http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UMgbSSFuXVg

Halloween used to be mainly celebrated by children in America ( as well as Scotland and Ireland),but now it seems to be becoming more and more popular with all generations in this country. Everyone seems to love an excuse to get dressed up, put face paint on, and go out and party. I first saw children go out ‘Trick- or -Treating” when I lived in California in the ’80’s. Nowadays, they are all doing it here too, although I did see one rather bad tempered neighbour a few years ago, slam his front door in the face of a group of angelic children, dressed up as wizards and fairies, with the words: ‘This is England, not America!” I went to see the film about Facebook this weekend – The Social Network. I definitely recommend it – its a fascinating story, and very well acted. Talking of Facebook, I found the above picture on there today, with the following quote: “He breathes into my ear until my soul takes on His fragrance. He is the soul of my soul.” – Rumi –

How did I learn to deal with my anger? I went to California Esalen, in northern California, was founded in 1962, and became a centre for the ‘human potential’ movement…It was an institute devoted to the exploration of the world of ‘unrealized capacities that lies beyond the imagination.’ It became known for its experimental workshops, the steady influx of philosophers, psychologists, artists and spiritual thinkers, as well as its breathtaking grounds, blessed with natural hotsprings. The photos above show visitors receiving the renowned naked Esalen massages in the open air and lying in the hot tubs which are so popular there, and all over California. I went to live in California in the 1970’s and became involved in the human potential movement and the psychological experimentation which was so popular at the time. I would go to workshops and bang pillows , raging at my parents, and trying to let out all my anger…….but little by little, I realised that the more I screamed, the more angry I was becoming, and the theory that if only I screamed long and hard enough, all my bottled up anger would disappear, did not seem to stand the test of experience. Gradually, it began to make more sense to experience… Read more »

What is LOVE? – a popular question The great mystics talk about Love – and the true meaning of Love on a Universal level: ‘Taking Love out of the personal sphere of relationship and acknowledging how it is part of creation of a fundamental, cellular level… reclaiming the cellular nature of love, the love that belongs to creation, the energy of life which is love. …. We have isolated ourselves from the real energy of life, so that life no longer nourishes us. There is a separation of spirit and matter… The secret of love is I am he who I love and he whom I love is me….. you are divine, you are an ocean of love. There is a secret within us…. call it beauty, peace, compassion, the divine centre of your self… we remember the taste of the inner elixir and we make a relationship with it…. We think we are searching for something, but that love is within ourself, and it is searching for you. The secret is that the essence of everything is love…. if you can be present with it, if you can taste it…. This is all latent within… Read more »

Tantra has many meanings and is a vast subject. Here are the words of three different masters, not necessarily on tantra itself, but on spirituality in general. ‘The state we call realization is simply being one’s self, not knowing anything or becoming anything. If one has realized he is that which alone is and which alone has always been; he cannot describe that state, he can only be that. Still it is a wonder that to teach this simple truth, there should come into being so many religions, creeds, methods, and the disputes among them. Oh the pity! Oh the pity! Ramana Maharshi ‘I am a cup caught in the hand of Love. If you dont believe me, look in my eyes. Or better still……. listen to my heart.’ Rumi One day a devotee asked Swamiji, ” What is mind control?” Throwing a flower in the air Swamiji answered, “See if my mind goes after the flower and gets glued to it, that is the mind going out of control. If I dont’t allow my mind to go out of control and keep it here – that is mind control. Simple !” Sri Shivabalayogi… Read more »

Tantric Tuition for Women Little girls are brought up with the romantic idea that one day they will meet their knight in shining armour, who will sweep her off her feet, love her for ever, and life will be wonderful ever after. We have been spoon-fed these romantic images, by novels, movies and our culture in general. But the reality, or the inside stories, reveal something very different going on under the surface. Novels like Lady Chatterley’s lover, which was banned when it was first written, have now been read by most schoolgirls. The tragedy of Romeo and Juliet is part of our culture….. as is Walt Disney’s Cinderella singing ‘Some Day My Prince will Come.’ We all know about the love life of famous politicians like Robert Kennedy, millionaires like Howard Hughes, footballers, starting with the first ‘pop’ footballer George Best, latin lovers like Rudolph Valentino and Clark Gable, and the most famous womanizer of them all, Casanova. But what is it like being married to these men? They may be able to sweep women off their feet initially, but what happens after that….? It must be very difficult, if not impossible, for anyone to live up to the… Read more »

Part 1 – Tantric Tuition for Men When men come to Tantric Massage London and ask for a tantric tuition session, the two main things they want to learn more about are: 1. Ejaculation Control 2. How to really give pleasure to a woman Ejaculation Control Many men experience concerns with premature ejaculation in some form or another during their life, and hope to learn some techniques to help them to last longer. A large majority find that when they are simply lying on the massage table, with no pressure to perform, their ‘premature ejaculation’ problem disappears, and they are able to last naturally for far longer than they thought, with no special effort on their part. There are several reasons for this. A lot of so called premature ejaculation issues arise from the pressure to perform and please a partner. When that pressure is removed, very often the problem evaporates. We encourage our clients to get in touch with their passive side and experience the feelings and sensation in their body, and to enjoy receiving unconditional touch – where there is no need to respond or reciprocate. In this way,… Read more »

This will be the first of a few articles on our tantric therapy /tantric tuition sessions We offer these sessions here at our Tantric Massage studio in the heart of Kensington.I would like to first of all lay the groundwork of all our thinking. There is a lot of confusion nowadays, about esoteric terms such as chakras, kundalini, shakti, etc. and all of a sudden, numerous so-called experts have sprung up, writing articles on these subjects. Nowadays, it is too easy to read a few articles or books, and overnight become an ‘authority’ on subjects such as tantra. Only a truly realised master can convey the truth on these subjects – and again, in today’s world, one needs a lot of discrimination in order to tell who is a truly realised master, and who is not. This is why we do not claim to raise your kundalini… we do not call ourselves Tantric Goddesses and we do not indulge in talk about chakras or rituals. During the past 40 years, I have been involved in a deep study, firstly of the many branches of transpersonal and humanistic psychology. I qualified as a co-counsellor, and also as a Fischer-Hoffman therapist… Read more »

There is a book called ‘Love’s True Home’ by Sri Gawn Tu Fahr (!!!) http://srigawntufahr.com Here are some of the quotes I like in his book: ‘A strange world exists in which everyone is born wearing five layers of clothing: physical, emotional, causal, mental and ethereal. Most only see the physical layer and believe they are the body. A naked man and woman appear and ask, “Whats with all the clothes?” For some this is a revelation and as they peel away the layers, the sweet love light in their golden hearts begin to shine through.’ ‘Ive been looking for a long, long time for this thing called love;Ive ridden comets across the sky and I’ve looked below and above. Then one day I looked inside myself and joy is what I found: a golden sun residing there, beaming forth God’s light and sound’ ‘One of the greatest challenges of the human state of consciousness is that we often find ourselves looking outward at life and reacting to others. This is where blame originates. What we experience in the outer world is a reflection of our inner states. When our hearts are filled with love we see love all… Read more »

I enjoyed reading this article on why men stray partly because of the underlying humour, and partly also because it highlights some of the paradoxes that we all face in our lives. Here are some snippets from the article: ‘Every man faces the battle between the urge for monogamy and promiscuity…’ ‘The wish to be free and the wish to belong…. the difficult bit has always been balancing the yearning for an impressive sexual CV and the longing for a wife, family and home….’ ‘Some men stay early… some men stray late…. And men spend a lifetime trying to negotiate a peace settlement between these most basic of instincts…’ ‘Some men stray for a bit and then they settle down. That is what many women find difficult to accept … sometimes a man strays not because he is a heartless fornicating bastard, but simply because he hasnt yet met the right girl…’ The author then gives examples of 3 well-known men: – Tiger Woods: ‘ I thought I could get away with everything I wanted to…. I felt I had worked hard and deserved to enjoy all the temptations around me…’ – Paul Newman: ‘You dont go out for hamburger… Read more »

It is constantly intriguing to search on google for words relating to sensual massage and tantric massage and see what comes up…… My latest discovery is the Tantra Chair It is apparently inspired by the female form … and is for “people who love sex but cant find the perfect furniture to do it on”….perfect for “divine lovemaking” and “tantric intimacy.” with your wife. It costs $1199 ….. ‘but the things you’ll experience on it are priceless’…….! The manufacturers, in true American style , have publicised it all over the net and it is mentioned in various blogs and discussions. The website states that it comes in 8 different colours and is ‘environmentally friendly’. It doesnt look very comfortable to me…. what does your wife think?

Getting in touch with your feminine side has become a sort of truism. In modern times,there have been many ways of describing the union of Shiva and Shakti…. terms like yin and yang, getting in touch with your feminine side, metrosexual have all become popular at various periods during the past 40 years or so. In the 60’s, we saw the beginning of a subconscious mood amongst men to start trying to appear less macho – the Rolling Stones would perform on stage with makeup, wearing flamboyant, feminine blouses … they would be followed in the 70’s by David Bowie’s androgynous alter ego Ziggy Stardust. In the 80’s Alice Cooper recorded the song: ‘ In Touch with your Feminine Side. And in the 90’s the term ‘metrosexual’ man became popular – but all this experimentation also had a certain superficial, materialistic and commercial side. Below is a 1960’s Rolling Stones recording of ‘Angie’. It was the days of ‘Flower Power’ and they are all holding roses, and look quite androgynous, singing a love song to Angie. The 2nd picture illustrates and beautifully explains the true symbolism of Shiva and Shakti , which is far deeper and more far-reaching. It reveals how Tantra can be seen as the union of the masculine and the feminine… Read more »

Men are from Mars has become a saying recognised by all, so there is no need for explanation. We always love it when clients give us feedback, because it is one sure way of truly finding out what they are experiencing, and it helps us also to learn and grow and adapt our way of working. We recently received an interesting email from a client, the day after his session with us – following are a few sentences from his email which we found particularly interesting: ‘Please pass on my heartfelt thanks to Celeste for yesterday – 24 hr later Im still feeling blissful and serene….. The overall effect was amazing and its the first time Ive felt that I could understand what you mean about ‘moving the energy around’ and experiencing sensations ‘with the whole body.’ I became interested in tantra because I love to massage my wife (who obviously loves it too !) and I wanted to be able to manage my own levels of excitement in a way which allow me to be present in the moment rather than trying to do the usual male things of thinking about tricky physics problems or trying to name the FA Cup… Read more »

One of our most popular sessions recently, has been the Tantric Massage Tuition session You learn to sensually awaken one another and we teach you how to give a sensual tantric massage to a partner. Many women feel unfulfilled because of a lack of real intimacy with their partner – their sex lives have become repetitive and routine, but often, they do not communicate or discuss it with their man, either because of their own insecurity and lack of self-confidence, or because they dont dare to hope for anything better, and may be afraid of offending him. The same is true for men. They often say that they love their wife, but feel a split between being turned on and actually feeling love. They want to experience love while making love to their wife. In order to pleasure our partner, we need to know how to pleasure ourself. Our conditioning teaches us that we should always think about the other person, and that it is selfish to just think about ourself. But one of the secrets of better lovemaking is to be totally present, in the moment, and to focus on what feels good to oneself. If both partners are able to do this, they will find that they… Read more »

I have been practicing Tantric Massage in London since 1992 but it was some years later that suddenly everyone seemed to know the word Tantra, because the singer Sting had publicly claimed that he practiced Tantric sex. In an interview with Sting in The Guardian on 12 November 2003, the author writes: ‘Sting says he is a lifelong risk-taker. He calls it “following his truth ” and it is why he resigned from a secure teaching job to try to make it in a band. His parents didnt follow their truths, he says and that is, ultimately why they died. “My father couldn’t express his love for his wife. My mother couldn’t express that she needed intimacy and she had the perfect right to find that wherever she could. We were conditioned as a family not to express ourselves “……. Sting is a famous proponent of tantric sex. I ask him to give the frustrated Guardian readers a few tips. He looks indignant and says its about ‘ a journey’, not “fucking for eight hours” OK, I say. “I try to be lighthearted about it” he says “but at the same time, there is some serious information about… Read more »

Tantric Massage London – What is Erotic Massage ?

Diwali Festival of Lights

Tantric Massage London- We hope you had a happy Halloween

Tantric Massage London- How to deal with anger

What is Love ?

Tantra expressed in different words

Tantric Tuition for Women

Tantric Tuition at Tantric Massage London in Kensington

Tantric Therapy/Tantric Tuition

Love’s True Home

“Why Men Stray, Why Men Stay ” – Tony Parsons article in GQ magazine June 2010

Wondering what to get your wife for her birthday….?

Getting in touch with your feminine side – what does it really mean…

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

Learn to sensually awaken and truly give pleasure to your partner

Sting – the rock star who made Tantra a household name

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