happy easter

    Happy Easter to everyone.   All the masseuses at Tantric Massage in Kensington would like to wish our clients a very happy and enjoyable Easter break. The photo above is of an Easter gift from one of our regular clients, which brought a ray of sunshine and joy into our hearts and into the clinic…… We will re-open next Tuesday.      

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elusive orgasm

Women’s orgasms are very different to those of men, and have been a mystery to men and women alike. Tantric massage is not supposed to concentrate on genital orgasm, but on  experiencing the powerful feelings of energy and bliss which circulate in the body,accompanying sensual arousal,  and which can lead to total body orgasm. However, today in the age of communication, more and more books and articles are being written about various aspects of  the female orgasm. Below we describe 3 different ways of helping women to achieve orgasm – the traditional way – via a new app -and a new medical invention. Does this sound familiar: MAN: Finally gets to go downtown and fumbles to get his hand where it counts. MAN: Starts random up-and-down or circular motion, hoping to God he can hit the spot and not be surprised. WOMAN: Moans and man thinks he’s doing well. WOMAN: Stops moaning. MAN: Shifts technique or goes into overdrive, and woman asks him to slow down. MAN: Slows down. Five seconds of mild positive response later, nothing. MAN: Feels like a dog trying to open a door with no thumbs. WOMAN: Gently stops his increasingly erratic attack after 10 minutes…. Read more »

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tantric yogassage

  Have you heard of tantric yogassage? I hadn’t either, until I read an article in the Daily Mail, about Bold and Naked Yoga, which is being run in a studio in Chelsea, NY. The idea is to celebrate our bodies, not to be sexually evocative. When all the students are naked, there is no competition regarding clothing – everyone is the same. Apparently erections during the class do occur, but very rarely – and they encourage that when it does, its OK and nohting to be embarrassed about. It will pass quickly….’once we start moving there is no way an erection could be sustained because of the physical nature of the Vinyasa Yoga.’ You can attend co-ed classes or single sex classes and in the tantric yogassage classes, participants are fully clothed. Since I have never heard of tantric yogassage, I decided to look it up. On their website: www.boldnaked.com, they say that tantric yogassage is the most powerful synthesis of assisted tantric yoga poses and innovative bodywork, to experience the art of touch and energy in motion. It is about letting go, deepening your experience and allowing the flow of energy. The same could be said of tantric… Read more »

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first kiss

The ‘First Kiss’ video was filmed in less than a day. It is a beautifully executed black and white film of 20 strangers kissing for the first time and was inspired by photographs taken by the late, great photographer, Richard Avedon, of people kissing. The short film clip by filmmaker Tatia Pilieva, portrays the excitement, anticipation and awkwardness of that first kiss. It is actually very moving in an unexpected way and has caught the imagination of viewers, generating millions of youtube views and social media shares in the past 24 hours. However, in reality the video is an ad for LA fashion company Wren. Melissa Coker, founder of Wren, and Tatia Pilieva thought it would be ingenious to capture complete strangers in the act. Coker said that she likes to create concepts that have a value of their own: ‘I don’t want to see any close-ups on shoes or skirts, or boring things like that.’ Several musicians, actors and models star in the film and noone knew they were going to be kissing until they turned up. All the women wear Wren clothing, but there is hardly any emphasis on the brand. The result is a candid display of… Read more »

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sex therapy joke

A sex therapy joke, thanks to facebook: A couple, both 78, went to a sex therapist’s office. The sex therapist asked: ‘What can I do for you?’ The man said ‘Will you watch us have sex?’ The doctor looked puzzled but agreed. When the couple finished, the doctor said: ‘There’s nothing wrong with the way you have sex’ and charged them $50. This happened several weeks in a row. The couple would make an appointment, have sex with no problems, pay the doctor, then leave. Finally, the sex therapist asked ‘Just exactly what are you trying to find out?’ ‘We are not trying to find out anything’ the husband replied. ‘She is married and we can’t go to her house. I’m married and we can’t go to my house. The Holiday Inn charges $90. The Hilton charges $108. We do it here for $50 and I get $43 back from Medicare !’

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breathing in tantric massage

  Breathing in Tantric Massage. Is it an erotic practice?   The breath is all important. When we stop breathing, we die. Yet how many of us are really aware of our breathing ?   A rapid, shallow “stress breath”, breathing from the chest, prepares us to fight or flee. It is part of the autonomic nervous system response to stress. It stops us from feeling, as our attention is directed towards the external threat.Our digestion stops and sexual response is inhibited. All our mental energy is directed towards the external environment – we disassociate, we feel shut down, frozen and numb.   Shallow breathing allows us to shut down our emotions so that we can fight or flee more effectively.   When we learn to breathe from the belly, or from the diaphragm, which is how we are meant to breathe, we also feel a fuller range of emotions   Deep full breathing can also release tears and laughter. Simply acknowledging and breathing into a feeling, can clear it.   Through deep breathing, we can learn to practice detachment, with mindful awareness of our emotions – and this is very empowering.   The practice of conscious breathing can alleviate… Read more »

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tantra

Tantra is probably the one of India’s yoga traditions which has become the most sensational, exotic and dramatic. It has come to fascinate the mind of the modern western world and has been interpreted in the most bizarre and entertaining ways. Tantra seems to offer us everything – plenty of heightened pleasure in sex, money, healing, in fact there are tantra methods for achieving all human desires. And what is more, one doesn’t have to renounce anything or become an ascetic as in other yoga traditions, because tantra is supposed to encompass everything. However, as in all things, we need to learn discrimination. We need to find out the difference between real Tantra and the superficial distortions which have become the norm in popular culture and are easily found everywhere. But how to tell who is a genuine teacher? The ‘New Age’ has embraced Tantra. There are so-called spiritual teachers on every street corner nowadays.New Age approaches to massage, body work, pranic healing etc. may have health benefits, but they do not lead to the deeper understanding and experience which require intense spiritual practices of meditation, mantras, pranayama…. True Tantric teachings are extremely deep and profound and include some of… Read more »

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sensuality

What do you think about sensuality? Do you consider yourself to be a sensual person? The truth is that we are all sensual beings. This is the way we were intended to be – so that we would be able to feel  the multitude of experiences that life is constantly offering us. But throughout time, religion and culture have been in charge of transforming our experience of our own sensuality. At what point in history was it that we, as a whole, decided to become thinking beings instead of feeling beings? I remember this question being raised in the 60’s when an entire generation broke away from the habits of their parents, who were perceived as traditional and repressive, and began to experiment with drugs, new psychological theories, rock and roll, and ‘letting go.’ The idea was to live in the moment, to just be and feel and experience. This is also when the Neo-Tantric movement began to gain popularity. But what is happening today? Have we become more attached to our mobile phones, tablets and apps than to our partners? Have we forgotten how to really connect with others by actually looking them in the eye and experiencing them as… Read more »

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porn

To my darling son, I know you have watched porn and I know this is not a conversation any boy wants to have with his mum. So I will spare you from having a face-to-face conversation with me about porn. I would be failing in my duty as a parent, guide, woman if I did not share with you the following information which has the power to impact greatly upon your future sex life and relationships. There is nothing wrong with being interested in sex and this is not a moral question. But it is a proven fact that men who watch a lot of porn have trouble enjoying real sex with real women. And I don’t want you to be that guy – not for yourself and not for your partners. I truly wish you and your generation could have been free to embark on your sex lives free from all the hardcore, soulless, sexist imagery of porn. I wish you could all have had the chance to explore it organically, with all the surprises, the thrills and even the spills. That’s how it was in the olden days – sex for us was a wonderful, sometimes awkward experience… Read more »

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nelson mandela

  Nelson Mandela passed away on December 5th, 2013 He was imprisoned for 27 years by the South African apartheid government. His crime? Standing up against a government that was committing heinous human rights abuses against black South Africans. He was released from prison in 1990 and went on to lead the way for the abolition of apartheid in 1994. He was elected as South Africa’s first black president that same year. After suffering years of abuse, Nelson Mandela’s most astounding accomplishment was to create the Truth and Reconciliation Commission which focused on healing the country’s wounds from human rights abuses using truth-telling and forgiveness. I was moved, watching tv last night to see the members of the UN Security Council, standing in silence to honour Nelson Mandela, in recognition of the fact that he truly was a peacemaker. ‘I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers fear.’ ‘No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn… Read more »

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you are the peace

    Peace and happiness lie deep within us, in the very core of our being This is the teaching of Ramana Maharshi and all the great beings. We look for happiness outside of ourselves but happiness does not exist in any external object. – only in us who are the consciousness that experiences happiness……. Desire and fear agitate our mind and obscure from its vision the happiness and peace that always exist within it. When a desire is satisfied, or the cause of fear is removed, the surface agitation of our mind subsides and in that temporary calm, our mind enjoys a taste of its own innate happiness. Therefore to master the art of being happy, we must master the art and science of just being. We must discover what the innermost core of our being is and we must learn to abide consciously and constantly in that state of pure being. The art of just being, remaining fully conscious, but without any activity of the mind is not only an art – a practical skill that can be cultivated and applied to produce an experience of inexpressible beauty and joy – but also a science- an attempt to… Read more »

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masters of sex 1

              Have any of you been watching Masters of Sex on tv – channel 4? 4 out of 12 episodes have already been shown. Plenty of time to describe some of the interesting work of this couple who are now known as two pioneering researchers of human sexuality. The series is based on a biography by Thomas Maier, and we have already been given a hint of the disturbed life of Masters’ early years when he was beaten by his father, with his mother just choosing to ignore what was going on. In the tv programme, Masters is played by Martin Sheen (photo above left) and the photo on the right is of the real Masters, whose repression shows in his eyes and face. And yet, this is the man who fought to break convention and chose to devote his life to chronicling and measuring the sexual habits of the men and women of his time. Masters,  and Virginia Johnson, who started off as his research assistant,  became partners and recruited volunteers to shed their inhibitions and masturbate or have sex in laboratory conditions. They later wrote and published ‘Human Sexual Response’ in 1966,… Read more »

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  Yesterday was Tara’s last day with us. She has decided to move on, and will no longer be practicing tantric massage. We will all miss Tara’s bright smile and radiant personality. I will always remember when she joined us two years ago. At that time, she had no experience of massage at all, but somehow I decided to take her on because she had a special quality about her. Since then, she enrolled on several massage courses and trainings, and has become one of our most popular masseuses. She has her own brand of common sense and a quality of taking interest in others and wanting to make others feel good – one might call it ‘spirit’, which is quite unique. We received the following email this morning from one of our regular clients: ‘Just wanted to say my session with Tara yesterday was in a par with one of Celeste’s …..It left my face and fingers tingling as tho they were literally vibrating.’ We all wish Tara lots of luck and happiness in her new life. She certainly deserves it.

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Gentleman's Willy Care Kit

  This is a gentleman’s willy care kit It might make a good joke Xmas present for a husband/ partner / lover/or an ex. And you will get a good laugh from the product description and the reviews on Amazon, which lists  it for sale at £8.99. The Gentleman’s Willy Care Kit comes complete with fluffing brush, styling scissors, sprucing mirror and also ‘evening wear’ (?)………All these items come packed in a luxurious hard leather-look case to add a touch of class to this fine personal grooming collection. A must for every man on the move. Our thanks to the Dawn French fan page on facebook for bringing this item to our attention. It is very funny, but on a slightly more serious note, here at Tantric Massage in Kensington, we have noticed a huge change in men’s grooming habits over the years and since you often ask us our opinions on what we like, we thought we would give you some feedback  on what we really like. We used to get asked questions like ‘ What do you think of my willy’ ? ‘Do you think it is long enough?” How does it compare with other men’s willies?’ etc…. Read more »

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masturbate

    Girls everywhere masturbate. Why can’t we talk about it? Is the title of an article in the Telegraph which I found recently while browsing the internet. The author, Rebecca Holman, doesn’t say anything about tantric sex or tantric orgasm, but just plain old masturbation. And it struck me that what she was saying was true. Little by little, over the years, we have become more and more open about what we talk about and what words are allowed on television – and, as the author says, talk about vibrators is fine. We can go and buy them together, and it seems nowadays only a prude would admit to not owning a vibrator. ‘But we never discuss female masturbation on its own, without a purple, glittery, revolving phallus, without a man present, just for the sake of it.’ But men talk about wanking all the time – so why the double standard? It seems that it is the way we talk about it. Its fine to discuss in sex education classes and in relation to products (toys) and messages re. spicing up your sex life. But we don’t talk about how to masturbate. We are the generation that talk… Read more »

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orgasmic meditation

Have you heard of Orgasmic Meditation or OM for short? It was mentioned to us by one of our female clients. Orgasmic Meditation is taught by an organisation based in the US but there seems to be a branch in London also. The whole idea of Orgasmic Meditation is to slow down, which is something we have written about in previous articles here According to their website, it is something you practice with a partner and it is equally powerful for both partners – the object of focus for both partners is the clitoris. They say that the practice strips away more and more layers of conditioning, fear and ..personality, so that the most tender parts of ourselves can touch the world. The website also contains intriguing articles on subjects like: ‘Why Men like Porn and Women like Vibrators’ which states that for both men and women there is a quality of hunger that is unmet, an itch that is not getting scratched. Orgasmic Meditation hold courses in the US and there are also meetings in London on Wednesday and Friday evenings. In the US, there are also advanced Orgasmic Meditation classes where ‘you will peak behind the curtain of… Read more »

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clitoris

  The clitoris is described as the only human body part that exists solely for pleasure. It is not merely a little ‘button’ hidden between a woman’s legs, but rather a large, mostly internal organ many people dont know about. New York artist, Sophia Wallace has created a multi-media art project entitled “Cliteracy”   According to Wallace, the clitoris was only scientifically discovered in 1998. Although the clitoris did appear in scientific literature in the mid-1800’s, it is only recently that an Australian urologist named Helen O’Connel published a paper describing its sheer scope and size. She specified that the unerect clitoris, most of which is subterranean, could be up to 9 cms long. In the image above, the internal clitoris is highlighted in yellow. Sophia Wallace notes how curious it is that the female form is idolized for its sexuality and is broadcast all around us in art and advertising, and yet the clitoris, which is the true female sexual organ, is virtually invisible. Not only that, but many women feel embarrassed to ask men to pleasure them, and feel that they are asking for a huge favour. ‘It is insane to me’ she says that this should still… Read more »

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osho tantra

Osho, formerly known as Rajneesh,  introduced his version of Tantra to the West in the 1960’s. He was controversial, but he was an intelligent and prolific writer. Here are some quotes from Osho: Tantra is the natural way to God, the normal way to God. The object is to become so completely instinctual, so mindless, that we merge with ultimate nature – that the woman disappears and becomes a door for the ultimate, the man disappears and becomes a door for the ultimate…This is the tantric definition of our sexuality: the return to absolute innocence, absolute oneness. The greatest sexual thrill is not a search for thrills, but a silent waiting, utterly relaxed, utterly mindless. One is conscious, conscious only of being conscious. One is consciousness. One is contented but there is no content to it. And then there is a great beauty, great benediction.   Question: ‘What is tantric sex… a sex which is a meditation based on certain techniques?’ Osho: If you are too technique oriented, you will miss the mystery of Tantra. It is pseudo-Tantra that is based on techniques, because if techniques are there, ego will be controlling. Then you will be doing it – and… Read more »

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virgin

  Sir Richard Branson, who founded Virgin Group, is one of Britain’s best known and most colourful entrepreneurs. Not many people will remember that his first venture, at the age of 16, was a magazine called Student. In 1970, he set up a mail-order record business and in 1972 opened Virgin Records, later known as Virgin Megastores. In the 1980’s he set up Virgin Atlantic and later, Virgin Trains. He is currently supporting the Google Impact Challenge in the UK, saying that nurturing new tech talents is one of the best ways to make a better, faster world. He will be judging the campaign for non-profits using tech to tackle the world’s toughest problems. He is quoted as saying :”Many of the world’s toughest challenges will be solved by bright, ambitious people developing ideas in their bedroom. I dont think he was referring to tantric sex.

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secret india

  ‘A Search In Secret India’ by Paul Brunton – excerpts   Paul Brunton  (1898-1981) was a British philosopher, mystic and traveller. His ‘Search in Secret India’ and the other books he wrote, had a major influence on the spread of Eastern yoga and mysticism to the West. Here he is putting questions to Ramana Maharshi:   “You mean that it is perfectly possible to conduct such mental investigation into oneself?” “Assuredly! It is possible to go inwards until the last thought ‘I ‘ gradually vanishes.”     What is left?” I query. “Will a man then become quite unconscious, or will he become an idiot?” “Not so! On the contrary, he will attain that consciousness which is immortal, and he will become truly wise, when he has awakened to his true self, which is the real nature of man.”   “But surely the sense of ‘ I’ must also pertain to that?” I persist. “The sense of ‘ I’ pertains to the person, the body and brain,” replies the Maharishee calmly.   ” When a man knows his true self for the first time, something else arises from the depths of his being and takes possession of him. That… Read more »

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