tantric massage and sexological bodywork

  Tantric massage and Sexological Bodywork work well together I never labelled my practice ‘tantric massage’ until around 2005 when suddenly everyone started using the internet and I noticed websites appearing, calling themselves ‘tantric massage london’ etc. So I decided that if they can call themselves tantric massage, I will also. I never had any illusions about the fact that tantra is something entirely different, because, as it happened, my original spiritual teacher, who I met in 1974, came from a tantric tradition. But the word tantra was hardly ever used among us. We received initiation, practiced meditation and received the transmission of energy. We were also given several practices – none of which included massage !! SkyDancing Tantra In the seventies, Margot Anand created a system which she called ‘Skydancing Tantra’ It included tantric massage and encompassed many of the teachings of Osho on sexuality (see my blog article on the origin of tantric massage). Osho Osho, an Indian guru who became popular in the 1970’s, kept stressing the fact that in the West. our religions have created a split between body and soul, which has led to guilt, shame and conflict over sexuality. So he encouraged his followers,… Read more »

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Tantric massage

                      We have been practicing tantric massage in London for over 20 years. When we first began, there were maybe 5 practitioners in the whole of London offering tantric massage. And we all advertised in a publication called Loot.Those were the days before the internet. There were no photos on display, no sexy images, simply a short ad, with our telephone number. And all the practitioners knew one another. Today, if someone wants a tantric massage, they will search on the internet, often via google, and they will find dozens of pages of listings. If a person just goes through the listings on page one of their search, most of the services they will find are escorts disguised as tantric massage. We have lost the innocence and gentleness of the early days. Now, large escort agencies buy their way onto Google search and do all they can to eliminate the competition. This has nothing to do with tantra or tantric massage. It has also changed the expectations of clients who visit these masseuses or escorts in disguise, and then come to us, asking for ‘yoni massage’ and other services which… Read more »

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tantra thoughts

      Tantra is a philosophy which needs to become an integral part of our daily life. And the tantra path needs a teacher to point out the direction. Otherwise, when we come to a crossroad, how do we know whether to turn left or right? How do we learn to look inwards and not outwards? Eventually, we become more and more attuned to the inner teacher, who is revealed in the depth of our heart. But it does help to have an outer teacher, especially at the beginnng. And where do we find a true tantra teacher? It is said that when the student is ready, the teacher appears. In the words of a Sufi Teacher: ‘ The unspoken poverty of our culture is a poverty of spirit, a real hunger for what the West has forgotten: that not just individual life, but all of creation is sacred…… we are part of the great mystery of creation…..First, we need to recognise that this connection with the Earth is missing, that there is an ache, a loneliness within our heart and soul….. and a grief for what we have lost. Because our soul remembers, even if our mind and… Read more »

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blue moon

    Tonight will be the night of the Blue Moon. Most of us don’t know what a Blue Moon is, except that it was a song sung by Frank Sinatra (you can listen to the song below) Nowadays, a Blue Moon can often refer to the second full moon of the month. This month, the first full moon was on July 2. An older definition of Blue Moon is that it is the third of four full moons in a single season. Some days,but not often, you might see an actual blue-coloured moon. The term ‘once in a blue moon’ used to mean something rare. Now that the rules for naming the Blue Moon include several different possibilities, Blue Moons are pretty common.     The Blue Moon this year is also the night of Guru Purnima                   It is a popular festival in India, celebrated to pay respect and offer gratitude to gurus and teachers. Indians have a lot of respect for their gurus because it is considered that the Guru is the one who provides an individual with knowledge and wisdom, and leads us towards the path of enlightenment…. Read more »

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tantra-tantric tuition

      What happens in your Tantra-Tantric Tuition ? Is a question that we often get asked by prospective clients. So I thought I would write an article on the subject, although of course, like all our sessions, the Tantra-Tantric tuition is adapted to each individual. I will be writing here about Tantra-Tantric tuition for men because this is where we get most of the questions. We make it a pre-requisite that anyone wanting to have Tantra-Tantric tuition should experience a tantric massage with us first. The reason for this is that one learns by receiving as well as by giving, and receiving is part of the learning experience. If you want to be able to give a wonderful tantric massage, you need to have experienced it on yourself first. It is possible to book a 2 hour appointment – and then the first hour would consist of the massage and the second hour would be the tuition. You do not need to book a series of sessions in advance but can take them individually, and decide at the end of each appointment whether you would like to book another one. That way, you can feel free and do… Read more »

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meditation recommended by the Rolling Stones

            The Rolling Stones may recommend it , but what is meditation?   There is a lot of talk about meditation nowadays, but how many people really know what it is? Our world has become one of ‘instant gurus’. People do a course here and there, and then set themselves up as experts. They then teach courses themselves, charge a lot of money and delude everyone else as well as themselves. It is what some Masters have called ‘ the soup of the soup of the soup. ‘ – the diluted understanding which results from our superficial modern world of instant communication and instant gratification. Words like meditation, chakras, kundalini have become part of everyday language. It is all too easy to copy or repeat a few paragraphs from a book or website, without any real understanding of what is being said. People want quick results and dont want to put in the time for real practice and deeper experience. They like to concoct their own philosophies. However, there is another side and a lot of precious information is also available. Generally speaking, it is advisable to turn to the teachings of the great Masters… Read more »

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the origin of tantric massage

  There are many misconceptions about the origin of Tantric Massage It did not originate in India thousands of years ago, but first started to become popular at the ashram of Rajneesh in Pune, India in the 1970’s and then spread to California in the 1980s. Tantric massage has nothing to do with Tantra in the true sense of the term. Its origins can be traced mainly to the work of two people: a French woman, Margot Anand, and an American man, Joseph Kramer. A lot of their work was influenced by Wilhelm Reich, Carl Rogers, Alexander Lowen and the many other pioneers of the human consciousness movement around the Esalen Institute in Big Sur, California, as well as by Taoist philosophy, Mantak Chia and the teachings of Rajneesh, later named  Osho, a controversial Indian guru of that period. Margot Anand Margot Anand was a graduate of the Sorbonne University in Paris. Like many other ‘seekers’ in the 1970s, she was drawn to India and stayed for some time at the ashram of Rajneesh in Poona. Rajneesh, whose name was later changed to Osho, was a controversial guru, who was said to have owned 99 Rolls Royces and promoted his… Read more »

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shakti

  Shakti will be with us for one more week and she will then go abroad to continue her studies.   She has been with us for over 3 years, and we wish her well. We hope that she will continue to visit and work with us during her holidays so do keep an eye out for our Schedule as we will post her name as and when she visits. Several of our masseuses have Sanskrit names. This is customary in India, and helps to remember the quality for which each god or goddess is known. Shakti personifies the Goddess, the  divine feminine creative power – the dynamic force of the universe. Shakti is the power, drive and force within a person. During our massages, we often play the CD of the 108 names of the Goddess because in traditional Tantra, worship of Shakti, or Mother Divine, is an integral part of the practices. This is not the maternal aspect of the mother, but the powerful energy which lies at our deepest level of awareness. All this is quite alien to our western culture, which may be one reason why there is so much wrong understanding of the original tantric… Read more »

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  Valentine’s Day is coming up again . Do you feel that you would like to offer your loved one a special experience or a gift? Or maybe there isn’t a special someone in your life.. Either way, one shouldn’t feel pressurised on Valentine’s Day or any other day. Even though society does its best to heap on the pressure on these commercial holidays, with articles about all of the wonderful things that people are doing. So I thought I would stick to chocolate – which is something you can either buy for someone, or enjoy yourself. From the days of the Aztecs, chocolate has been considered an aphrodisiac – it contains chemicals such as theobromine and phenylethylamine which are thought to be responsible for chocolate’s erotic potency. It is of course, also delicious and melts sensually in the mouth.         Chocolates come in all shapes and sizes. On Valentine’s day, you would think heart-shaped chocolates would be appropriate. However, I was surprised to learn that Edible Anus chocolates, as pictured above, from http://www.edibleanus.com , have already sold out, one week before Valentine’s day.   If the idea of getting your female partner a chocolate dress appeals… Read more »

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female orgasm

  The female orgasm is the subject of of the first video in a new Guardian series of videos. Psychotherapist and agony aunt, Philippa Perry, who is married to the cross-dressing artist Grayson Perry (see picture above) . responds to a woman who is suffering from anorgasmia and doesn’t want to resort to faking it in her new relationship. You can watch the video on the Guardian website: http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/video/2015/jan/23/50-never-had-orgasm-video In summary, Philippa Perry tells the questioner that 1 in 15 women dont have orgasms. It annoys her that  our culture has made it into this big enormous thing that women actually  feel ashamed when they dont have an orgasm. Orgasms are not the ultimate signifier of a fulfilling sexual relationship. What makes a good relationship is not all about orgasms – it’s about how open you can be with each other – sharing on a deep level……..In general,the standard advice  for inability to reach orgasm, is to try masturbation – knowing how to please yourself is  a good first step………       Ladies Come First is the brainchild of two sisters in their twenties, Sophie and Alice Holloway. They are the young founders of Holloway Smith Noir, a lingerie… Read more »

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tantra on gwyneth paltrow's goop

    Mention Tantra and most people think of having sex for hours ‘a la Sting’.   An introduction to tantra on Gwyneth Paltrow’s Goop has been published. So now another famous celebrity has added her name to the practitioners of Tantra. Or at least she has published an article on Tantra on her website: ‘Goop’.   I was attracted by an article which stated: ‘Gwyneth Paltrow has shocked followers of her lifestyle website Goop by posting an introduction to ‘tantric’ sex.’   However, this is not entirely true. The article is written by Michaela Boehm, who teaches seminars on Tantra. It is written mainly in a Question- Answer format. Naturally, she is talking about neo-tantra, although she doesn’t mention the term, and seems to have little interest in traditional Tantra. But intriguingly, she does say: ” In reality, only a small portion of Tantra has anything to do with sex, and only as a way to merge with the divine.”   She is really interested in helping to improve people’s relationships, problems with intimacy, getting in touch with the masculine or feminine part within us and gives ‘ten tips for creating wild passion and deep intimacy‘   The author… Read more »

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walt whitman

    “This is what you shall do: Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to everyone that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others, hate tyrants, argue not concerning God, have patience and indulgence toward the people, take off your hat to nothing known or unknown, or to any man or number of men—go freely with powerful uneducated persons, and with the young, and with the mothers of families—re-examine all you have been told in school or church or in any book, and dismiss whatever insults your own soul; and your very flesh shall be a great poem, and have the richest fluency, not only in its words, but in the silent lines of its lips and face, and between the lashes of your eyes, and in every motion and joint of your body.” –from Preface to “Leaves of Grass” – Walt Whitman (1855)

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map of the vagina

  This map of the vagina is for your convenience Vaginas are a source of mystery and fascination to most men. Questions about vaginas, the location of the clitoris, what women like and dont like, are questions which are often asked in our tantric tuition sessions. At first, clients can be hesitant or embarrassed to ask the questions they really want to ask, feeling that they should probably know the answers. They feel that at their age, they should have learned whatever there is to know. However women’s bodies are a mystery, even to women themselves. So it is not surprising that there is often a lack of open communication amongst couples. Maybe it is easier to discuss these things with a person who is neutral and non-judgmental, and experienced enough to be able to answer any question about a woman’s anatomy, and what most women like and do not like. Celeste offers tantric tuition sesssions at our beautiful studio in Kensington on mondays and tuesdays. She will be available on December 8, 9 , 15 and 16, before she goes away for one month at Christmas. She will be back in the New Year, on Monday January 19th. Why… Read more »

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institute of sexology

‘The Institute of Sexology’ is a new exhibition which will be held at the Wellcome Collection, 183 Euston Road, London NW1 2BE, starting on November 20th Their website states invitingly : Undress your mind and join us to investigate human sexuality at ‘The Institute.’ The Institute of Sexology is a candid exploration of the most publicly discussed of private acts. It will be the first UK exhibition to bring together the pioneers of the study of sex. You may have read our earlier article on the tv programme Masters of Sex. This exhibition will tell the story of the study of sex through all of its pioneers, from Freud to NATSAL. It highlights the profound effect that the gathering and analysis of information can have in changing attitudes and lifting taboos. In the 1930’s, Berlin was the world capital of sexual liberation, well-described in Christopher Isherwood’s novel: ‘Goodbye to Berlin.’ Isherwood lived in Berlin in an apartment owned by Magnus Hirschfeld’s Institute for Sexual Science. Hirschfeld was known as the ‘Einstein of Sex.’ He formulated dubious aphrodisiacs and anti-impotence medicines, and his Institute was decorated more like a wealthy private residence than a scientific establishment, with Persian carpets, a grand… Read more »

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happy diwali

Diwali, the festival of lights is celebrated by Hindus, Jains and Sikhs (on 24-28 October this year – dates vary according to the Indian lunar calendar) has become increasingly popular and mainstream in the UK. India loves its holy holidays, and during Diwali, which coincides with the Hindu New Year, a lot of time is spent on decorations, fireworks, food and also wearing new clothes on the day which represents the triumph of good over evil. Depending on who you talk to, the significance of the day may be explained in different ways. The great sage Ramana Maharshi said that Diwali signifies the shining of our true Self, after the destruction, through self-enquiry, of the Ego, with which we tend to identify. Due to our latent tendencies, we see the world in a certain way, and this becomes habitual. But when we practice self-enquiry, we eventually discover that our inner Self was always there, shining and bright, and that is our true nature. The Bhagavad Gita says ‘the light among lights……. said to be beyond darkness and called God by some, is the embodiment of knowledge, worthy of being known….. and dwells in the hearts of all.’ One of the… Read more »

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hard on in public

  Getting a hard on in public is a very male problem   This article is taken from the blog of Ruby Jane May, with thanks to her and to Drew Larson who drew our attention to it.   “Coming out: my love of public hard ons.”   “There is something about this article that touches me. Male desire is generally something that is boasted about. The more potent you are, the more of a man you are.   Unless of course it comes at an inappropriate time or place. There is something about the volatility of arousal and our inability to control it, that gives the publicly aroused man a sense of vulnerability – not something usually associated with male sexuality.   Virile easily tips into a sense of being ‘perverted’. Pride into embarrassment.   As a woman, observing these images and taking the time to slowly absorb their content, I enjoy the desire they evoke in me. By admiring these delightful displays of obstinate arousal and the interplay between pride and shame, ‘objectifying’ them to an extent, the tables are turned.”   What do you think?   I wonder how many women think and sympathise with men over… Read more »

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student in vagina

      US student is rescued from giant vagina sculpture in Germany You may have read about how a young American in Tubingen, Germany got trapped inside a giant sculpture of a vagina and  had to be rescued by 22 firefighters  -The statue, Chacán-Pi (Making Love), is the work of Peruvian artist Fernando de la Jara and has sat outside of Tübingen University’s institute for microbiology and virology since 2001. It’s valued at $173,000. I just had to mention it on here, because it made me laugh so much ! Police confirmed that the firefighters-turned-midwives delivered the student ‘by hand and without the application of tools.’ “We were able to pull the victim out with our bare hands after about 30 minutes,” said the rescue chief, who could not help but add that a “forceps delivery was not necessary.” The town’s mayor told a local paper that he could not imagine how the boy got caught, “even when considering the most extreme adolescent fantasies,” adding, “To reward such a masterly achievement with the use of 22 firefighters almost pains my soul.” ‘It was a dare’ said the squad leader of the local fire department. ‘The young man had tried… Read more »

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massage and meditation for children

Massage and mindfulness, in my opinion, should be taught to children as early as possible. In India, children are massaged from very early on, and I wonder whether this is one reason for their flexibility in yoga. Luckily, this attitude has been catching on in the West, and naturally, most children love being massaged. As an example, ‘Peaceful Touch’ is a concept that was begun by the Axelsons Institue in Stockholm, Sweden. It was intended to help and spread the effects of human touch within society, and especially aimed towards the younger generation, to reduce and prevent violence and distress. Since its introduction into schools, it is now used by more than 10,000 trained teachers in Sweden. Here is a touching testimonial: “I have introduced massage in my class since the children were very busy and inattentive. The children appreciated those quiet moments very quickly . Only David couldn’t stand any physical contact, he always kept aloof, while he showed his disapproval, until one morning he came to join our session. After choosing Laura, he gently attentively massaged her. After this Laura massaged him in turn and he turned out very relaxed. David has really enjoyed that session today. Even… Read more »

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tantric telly

‘Tantric Telly: how to heighten box set pleasure’ is the title of an article which appeared recently in the Evening Standard. The word ‘tantric’ is being used in more and more peculiar ways. I can sympathise with editors – there must be a lot of pressure to come up with new and original articles to fill their newspapers. Now they are resorting to using ‘tantric’ as a buzzword with an open-ended range of bizarre meanings. The author’s contention is that by controlling oneself and not gorgeing on all the episodes of our favourite box sets in one go, we heighten the pleasure with delayed gratification. In her words: ‘A few nights ago in a London flat, a twentysomething couple were getting pretty involved. But right as they verged on climax, one suggested lights out for bedtime — leaving things on a cliffhanger. The drama would begin again tomorrow evening, made all the sweeter by waiting. This couple are not the young disciples of a certain Sting and Trudie — though their methods are tantric in approach. This is the practise of tantric boxset: killing the action just when things are about to explode. It’s edging — or “orgasm control” —… Read more »

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mindfulness and tantric massage

Mindfulness has been hitting the headlines recently Today’s Guardian mentions that Ruby Wax joined politicians in parliament for a spot of mindfulness practice. Sceptical MPs have joked it is becoming “a cult in parliament”, but mindfulness meditation stepped into the political mainstream today when MPs and peers gathered at Westminster, closed their eyes and went silent for a minute. “Connect with the breath, wherever it feels most strong,” intoned the meditation. “For the full duration of the in-breath and the full duration of the out-breath.” It was just a taste of what 95 MPs, peers and parliament staff have already experienced on mindfulness meditation courses inside parliament. The practice – based on Buddhist meditation but updated for secular users – is catching on across a stressed-out Britain. Ruby Wax has become the poster girl for the benefits of mindulness meditation She has been travelling around the country, doing her one-person comedy, yet serious act discussing mindfulness.She now has a masters degree in it. Lord Andrew Stone told the meeting he used it to steady himself after he became “scared” when he was dispatched to Cairo for meetings with Egypt’s military leadership earlier this year. “I didn’t know how to cope,”… Read more »

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