tantric massage and mindfulness

  Tantric massage and mindfulness have become buzzwords Both terms are used a lot nowadays, but few people really know what either of them mean. Mindfulness is being promoted by university professors, spiritual leaders, celebrities, as well as the NHS. It is being recommended to overcome depression, stress and over-thinking. But what is it? And what is its connection with tantric massage? Since mindfulness really comes from the Buddhist tradition, here is a quote from Thich Nhat Hahn, the inspirational Zen Master:   “Living mindfully and with concentration, we see a deeper reality and are able to witness….. without fear, anger or despair.”   Jon Kabat-Zinn, a famous American Buddhist teacher of mindful meditation, puts it like this:   “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally…… it is being alive and knowing it.”   And in the words of Bodhipaksa:   “Mindfulness is the gentle effort to be continuously present with experience”   So different teachers explain it in different ways. For our purposes during a tantric massage, it helps us to be aware that we are not our thoughts. With the help of deep breathing, we can connect with ourself… Read more »

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male and female sexual energy

  The difference between male and female sexual energy has intrigued us throughout the ages. We only have to look at current book and newspaper titles to see that the subject is still on our minds:   – Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus – The Secret to Mind-Blowing Orgasms – How Men’s Brains are Wired Differently than Women’s (from Scientific American) – Nurture your Feminine Side (The Chopra Centre)     The ordinary male must ejaculate often   or he will become frustrated, emotionally irritable and have little control over his mind. However it is not necessary that the build up of sexual energy should cause such symptoms. It is possible to learn to circulate the energy throughout the entire body, leading to a strengthening of the entire energy body and a rejuvenation of the physical. Through Tantric meditation, one can radiate orgasmic states throughout the entire body with or without a partner. Exchanging sexual energy with your partner and circulating and blending it throughout your bodies simply cannot be compared with ordinary orgasm With ordinary orgasm a small amount of sexual energy is built up and then released from the testicles in men and the… Read more »

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search engine optimisation for tantric massage london

  Since I no longer practice massage these days, I spend a lot of my time on admin type work, which includes research on search engine optimisation for tantric massage london.   What that means is figuring out how google rewards websites by placing them at the top of search for a particular phrase or word. Naturally every website wants to be found by as many people as possible who may be interested in their services. In the field of tantric/sensual/erotic massage there is a huge amount of competition nowadays, not to mention all the escorts who have taken to labelling themselves as tantric massage agencies. Google are said to have their own algorithms to help them figure out how relevant a website may be. Since this is a secret algorithm, many SEO companies have been created specifically to make a living out of advising clients on how to create websites which will be ‘liked’ by google. Since I have time on my hands, and since I find this study quite interesting and challenging, I make a point of observing which websites in our field are doing well on search, and I try to figure out the reasons why. Our… Read more »

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Valentine's Day

  Valentine’s day is coming up soon It is one of those holidays which holds loads of hidden expectation for some, and can be a day of dread for many singles who don’t have a partner to share it with. Some people tend to dismiss Valentine’s Day as a commercial fanfare. According to some recent studies, women are not that into Valentine’s Day: their partner usually wants to have sex, whereas 43% of women have no interest in shaking up their bedroom routines, and 35% are more excited about the cuddling than the sex itself. 34% would rather spend the night watching TV than getting it on….. Valentine’s Day can evoke pressure for women to please their partners at the expense of their own desires. 23% of women said they hated having to shave or wax for their significant other, and 11% wished they could skip out on the lingerie. However, below is an article written by a female married journalist, with an opposing view: “Gents, I will let you into a little secret. When a woman says she doesn’t care about Valentine’s Day and doesn’t want to celebrate it, don’ believe her. If she practically insists on you not… Read more »

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tantric massage schedule

Our tantric massage schedule will change for the 3 weeks from January 16th. I shall be taking a break during that time and  Celeste will be taking my place . She will be’The Boss’ during those three weeks. Please don’t expect the phone to be answered as rapidly as usual, or emails replied to as promptly, because Celeste will be working doing massages as well as doing all the admin work. In fact, you may get a better response by email than by phone during those three weeks. Also, Jyoti will be away from January 16-25. She will be doing a tantric training course in Germany, and we are all looking forward to hearing about it, and learning what new techniques she may discover. ___________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________________   Mon Jan 30  : CELESTE Tue Jan 31  : CELESTE, JYOTI Wed Feb 1   :  EDEN Thur Feb 2  : JYOTI, CHANDRA Fri Feb 3 : JYOTI ______________________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________________

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Happy peaceful and healthy New Year

  Merry Christmas and all our best wishes for a happy peaceful and healthy New Year to you all. We would like to give a big Thank You to all our clients – we love and really appreciate all the wonderful and unexpected gifts we have received from you, and we look forward to seeing you all again in the New Year. 2016 has been a particularly eventful year. Apart from devastating wars and displacement of refugees, the world has, in one year,  lost so many of our Rock and Pop icons , movie stars and tv stars. The Uk voted for Brexit, and the USA voted in Donald Trump. It feels somehow, like the end of an era and the beginning of a new one. Let us see what 2017 has in store. Inspite of all the craziness and turmoil in the world outside, and the daily stress of London life, one of our main aims has always been to maintain a haven of peace, calm, and tranquility here. This has been an exceptionally busy year for us and we realise that many of our regular clients have not been able to make bookings because we have been booked… Read more »

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xmas holidays at tantric massage london ikensington

  Re. Xmas Holidays at Tantric Massage London Kensington We have been getting a lot of questions about our opening hours during the Xmas holidays. So to clarify, we will be staying open during that period, from Monday-Friday as usual, except naturally for Xmas day and Boxing Day. We have  also been actively seeking a replacement for Uma who has had to return home. We do hope she will come back to us in the New Year, but nothing is certain at the moment – so in the meanwhile, we have been looking for another tantric masseuse to join us. Our special offer four-hand tantric massage is still extremely popular, and clients are asking for it to be available more often. We have now taken on a new masseuse, Chandra, and will be offering a special Xmas offer with her and Jyoti. This offer will extend for four Thursdays, from December 22-January 12, and will be £140 for a one hour four hand massage. Please keep an eye on our schedule on this website, which is always updated at the end of each week. It will always be kept current, but you may need to clear your computer cache in… Read more »

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tantric masseuse uma

  Sadly, our tantric masseuse Uma will be leaving us at the end of November   Uma has been extremely popular with our clients during the 6 months she has spent with us. She has been completely booked up for the whole time and I have received many compliments for her.   Many clients do not want to place testimonials on our website, for personal reasons,  but they have privately told me how wonderful her massages are. Uma has to go back home to sort out some family affairs, and she is not entirely sure how long that will take her. We do hope that she will be able to return to us in a few months time, but at this point nothing is certain. We are looking for another masseuse to replace her, but Uma has set a high standard, and we may not be able to find someone right away. Uma’s last day with us will be November 30 so if you would like an appointment with her before she leaves, she will be available on Wednesays and Thursdays and also Tuesday November 29 and Wednesday 30 which will be her last day. It would be advisable to book… Read more »

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love and sexual energy

  Love and sexual energy are deeply connected in ways that many of us are not aware   The ancient Greeks, who were highly sophisticated, had six different words for love, each with a slightly different meaning: Eros or sexual passion – this was not thought of as necessarily positive, the way we do today. Eros was viewed as dangerous, fiery and irrational, as it could take hold of you and possess you. It involved a loss of control. Philia or deep friendship, which was valued far more than Eros or basic sexuality. Ludus or playful love was the affection and type of flirtation seen between young lovers, or at the beginning of a relationship. Agape or love for everyone. This is selfless love – an ideal sought in religious traditions. Pragma is the mature longstanding love which includes deep understanding and develops between long-married couples. Philautia is love of the Self. The Greeks were a very advanced culture and knew that there are two types of self love. One is narcissistic and childish, and the other requires deeper self knowledge – in other words, we can only love others to the extent that we really know and love ourselves…. Read more »

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tantric massage video

  Our tantric massage video which is on the home page of this website has quite a history behind it.   I decided to have a video made many years ago because at the time, we were offered a discounted deal by one of the directories we had subscribed to. I hadn’t had the website for very long, so I was quite new to anything to do with websites. The rep/salesman from the directory had put quite a bit of pressure on me to have it made, and after some consideration, I also thought it would be a good idea. I felt it would give future clients the opportunity to see the environmnent they would be coming into and although we were not going to take them through the intimate details of the massage, they would be able to get a feeling of what to expect. The first step was for the video company to pick someone to come over to our place to actually film the video. However they kept delaying things and giving us strange excuses over several weeks. They finally admitted that they couldn’t find anyone among their regular staff willing to make it, because since the… Read more »

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sensual massage forums

  Sensual Massage forums are used by several of our male clients Sometimes that is how they find about us in the first place. Personally, I was totally surprised when I first discovered that these forums exist and that their ‘raison d’etre’ is to enable punters to share information about the various sensual massage providers that they have visited. I have always felt that a tantric massage session is a personal, private and intimate experience. So it came as a shock to discover that intimate details of the massage were being discussed on an online forum and that personal remarks were being made about me, my surroundings and the masseuses who work here. I discovered that some men enjoy this form of ‘male bonding’ –  the transparency and communication and sharing of feedback. There seemed to be an anonymous online camaraderie and a desire to communicate intimate details and to steer other members away from providers who did not live up to their standards – a genuine desire to be helpful to one another. The conversations sometimes become unpleasant and even gross and they often use their own acronyms. Male egos are on full display. I suspect this may be… Read more »

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tantric massage

  What are you looking for in a tantric massage?   From speaking to our visitors over many years, the following seem to be essential:   1.The premises should be beautiful, comfortable, clean and private. You want to avoid a seedy bedsit at all costs, and you do not want to knock into other clients. It is also helpful if the place is easy to find, centrally located and hopefully with parking, taxis or public transport nearby.   2.The masseuses should be talented in their profession, they should have pleasant personalities and enjoy what they do. They should also listen to you and adapt the service to your individual needs. They should be attractive both inside and out. You want to feel that they are being authentic and that you can relate to them as a person.   3. You are looking for the very best service, from the point of view of ease of communication in making the appointment, reliabilty and consistency of quality. You also appreciate discretion and maybe that extra special ‘something’ which cannot be described in words.   4. You do not want to feel rushed or hurried.   5. If you are a regular client,… Read more »

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tantric massage kensington in central london

  Come to us for a tantric massage in Kensington Central London Visitors to London will discover that we are in one of the most sought-after residential areas in Central London. Clients often ask us where we recommend for lunch or dinner after their appointment. Of course, we always advise them to come for their massage on an empty stomach, but after their appointment, they have a huge choice of nearby restaurants and cafes as well as tourist attractions. There are so many cafes and restaurants nearby, we are really spoiled for choice. Our masseuses are constantly slipping out to get a coffee from Starbucks, and Sainsbury and Waitrose are just nearby for lunchtime grocery shopping. Or, a little further away, on Kensington High Street with its upmarket shops, you can find the largest Wholefoods Market in London, with several restaurants on its first floor. Just around the corner from us is the highly recommended Evoluzione, a high class Italian restaurant. And just 5 mns walk away, near Gloucester Road underground station is the well-known Bombay Brasserie There are also less pricey but also excellent restaurants, depending on your taste – The Lotus Garden an excellent Chinese restaurant near Earl’s… Read more »

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Eden tantric massage london gallery

Many of you have been trying to make advance bookings for tantra massage with Eden   Eden has decided to study for a new career, and this will be taking up a lot of her time in the future. However, for now, she will continue to offer tantra massage with us on various days to fit in with her new studies. To find out when she will be here, please check our Gallery page. which will give you our masseuses’ schedule one week in advance. Eden has been a very popular masseuse with everyone in the past 3 years and we do hope she will be able to continue to work here for at least one day per week in the near future. For the time being, she will be offering our 4-hand special tantra massage on Wednesdays with Uma, who joins us this week. You will find a couple of photos of Uma and a brief description of her experience on our Gallery page. Eden may also be able to replace the other masseuses when they go away on holiday, so please keep an eye on our weekly schedule, which will always be posted one week in advance. For… Read more »

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secrets of tantric massage

    What is the secret of Tantric Massage? Are there any secrets left in our modern culture, where answers to anything can be found at the click of a mouse? Bede Griffiths, the British Benedictine monk who lived in India and became a noted yogi, said: ‘For me, the great discovery in India is the discovery of the sacred. In india, everything is sacred: the earth is sacred, food, water and taking a bath are all sacred, a building is sacred.’ What does this really mean? Here in the west, we have lost this understanding and attitude. We have become used to instant gratification. But the problem with instant gratification is that the experience does not last….By its nature it is fleeting – and one desire leads to another and another and another…… Sacredness implies honouring a deeper part of ourselves, which leads to more permanent contentment, fulfilment, inner peace and the feeling of total satisfaction .The experience of being in the moment, rather than doing. This is what we all really want, but there is an underlying pressure in our society to strive to compete, to achieve, to spend , to perform . These are the things we… Read more »

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tantric massage and sexual confidence

    Can tantric massage boost sexual confidence? First one needs to understand what sexual confidence really is.   We could all start by asking ourself the question: ‘Am I a sexually confident person?’   Following is a pertinent quote from Osho,  who was a  popular guru, sometimes known as the ‘sex’ guru’ of the seventies: “ All religions have turned man against his own energies. Sex is man’s whole energy, his life energy. So through condemning sex…. and preventing the orgasmic experience, religions have made men and women slaves. And the basic strategy is :’because sex is the most powerful energy in you, sex should be condemned, a guilt should be created. Then the individual has a split….. his nature is sensuous, sexual and his mind is full of garbage against it. So man is afraid of sex as far as the mind is concerned, but his biology has nothing to do with the mind.The biology has its own way of functioning, so it will draw him towards sex and his mind will be standing there continuously condemning him. So he makes love, but in a hurry. He is hurrying because he feels he is doing something wrong. The… Read more »

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origins of tantra

  For those among you who are truly interested in the origins of Tantra, the following article, entitled ‘A Thousand Years of Abhinavagupta’ will give you all the information you need:   http://www.sutrajournal.com/a-thousand-years-of-abhinavagupta-by-jeffrey-lidke   It is a fairly scholarly article and gives a lot of insight into the cultural traditions of India. Although it may not be of interest to many of our clients who come to us mainly for relaxation, I couldn’t resist doing a short article on it for my blog, as it does truly clarify what tantra is, and may give the reader some idea of why I keep saying that we should not be calling our massage ‘tantric massage’. The article is entitled ‘A Thousand Years of Abhinavagupta’ by Dr. Jeffrey S. Lidke. Abhinavagupta lived one thousand years ago (ca. 950-1020). It is said that his mother and father engaged in ritualized sexual union, so that their son would not be an ordinary being, but a channel for ‘a god-being to enter this world for the sake of revealing ancient wisdom toward the end of providing a path of liberation for worthy seekers.’ His education was unrivaled and today, he is recognized by many as being… Read more »

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genuine tantric massage

‘ I would like a genuine tantra massage’ Is a call that we often get. Potential clients will phone and say :’ your website looks really genuine. I am looking for a genuine tantra massage.’ I usually then ask: ‘What do you you mean by a genuine tantra massage?’ And the questioner often doesn’t know what to say. Sometimes they will say things like: an internal orgasm, or learning to extend ejaculation, but the majority of the time, they really do not know. And on our side, we find that however much potential clients may ask for so-called ‘genuine’ tantra massage, as soon as they are on the massage table, they start trying to grab the masseuse, they want to touch her everywhere, or begin to ask the usual questions like ‘ Do you get turned on by this?’ or ‘What made you become a tantric masseuse?’ or ‘Do you have a boyfriend?’ etc. And at the end, after experiencing the most mind-blowing experience, rather than allow themselves to sink into the feeling of total relaxation, they will feel they need to make conversation and ask questions like: ‘Are you busy these days?’ or say:’I must rush to my next… Read more »

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sexological bodyworker

      Celeste is now a qualified Sexological Bodyworker.   She completed the course (see details in my previous blog article   https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-and-sexological-bodywork/) and received the qualification because she has been very much in demand for our Tantric Therapy/Tuition sessions for several years now,and she wanted to study the subject in more depth. The idea was to get more knowledge, feedback and a recognised qualification. The t-shirt she received on graduating shows that the organisation has a sense of humour, which is always a plus. Personally, I wasn’t too sure what a Sex Geek is, so I have searched the term and come up with some interesting definitions. The Urban Dictionary definition is: “Someone who takes pride in learning, applying and spreading throughout their lives, accurate sexual health information, effective communication skills and relationship blackbelt knowhow regardless of sexual identity and practices” http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Sex+Geek   Sex-Positive Podcasts “that helped me realize, I’m a Sex Geek   I identify as a ‘sex geek’ It’s a term that was coined and made popular by renowned sex educator Reid Mihalko and I’ve been one since before there even was a term for it…….. ” https:[email protected][email protected]a99aebe9#.jx6j2r26l   10 Ways to become a Sexy Geek Confidence… Read more »

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internal clitoris - betty dodson

  Betty Dodson is a well-known sex educator I have mentioned her before, in previous articles on this blog. For women, in particular, it is well worth reading some of the many articles on her comprehensive website: http://www.dodsonandross.com   She has written countless articles and produced many videos on all kinds of subjects related to women’s sexuality.   In the video above, she draws a vagina, including the clitoris and I thought it would be interesting, helpful and educational for both women and men to watch.   In fact, it seems that it was only in 2009 that researchers produced the first complete three-dimensional sonography of the stimulated clitoris, similar to the blue and yellow picture above.   Before that, there were only incomplete or inaccurate textbook descriptions and nobody knew about the full anatomical scope of the excited clitoris until the late 1990s, when an MRI was used to study its structure in its ‘live’ state.   The researchers worked for 3 years without proper funding and it is thanks to them that we now understand how the erectile tissue of the clitoris engorges and surrounds the vagina – a complete breakthrough that explains how what we once considered… Read more »

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