sexual energy

  Why can’t men hold their sexual energy?   is the title of an interesting article which recently appeared on a psychosexual website: http://psychosexualsomatics.com/cant-men-hold-sexual-energy/ It asks the question: “So do guys really just want to have quick sex and cum?……. Here’s the age old problem; women typically want longer sex sessions, with more of a build up of erotic energy, guys tend to want to move ahead to ‘the main event’ of penetration and ejaculate pretty much as soon as possible. Why? The interesting thing about sexual energy is that although most guys spend a huge amount of time thinking about sex, planning ways to get it, fantasising about what they’ll do once they get there, when they’re actually in a sexual situation they want to get rid of that sexual energy as fast as possible by ejaculating it out of them. Interesting conundrum, right? Why spend all that time wanting something, only to discharge it as soon as you get the chance?” This issue is pretty pertinent at the moment with the newspapers full of descriptions of the  obnoxious and  abusive behaviour of Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein. He would do things like pressurize  young women to watch him masturbate…. Read more »

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tantric massage scene in London

    The tantric massage scene in London has changed enormously over the past 20 years What has prompted me to write an article on this topic is that we have been looking for a new tantric masseuse to replace Lakshmi, doing the four-hand massage on Thursdays. I knew when Lakshmi first joined us that she would only be staying in London until September, so I started keeping an eye open early on. In the past, I have always had a large choice of talented and attractive masseuses who had written to me, asking if they could train and work with us. I very rarely needed to advertise. They would always enclose a cv and photo, as requested on our employment page, and the majority were interested in the subject of tantric massage, and in learning more. But the tantric massage scene in London has now changed. I have received a few email requests from very young girls with no massage experience, no cv, confidently saying that they could learn fast and expecting very high pay. When I did make appointments for some of them to come and meet me, most of them did not even bother to turn up… Read more »

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punting forums

  Punting Forums   or  Sex Forums, are portrayed in Jane Champion’s new BBC drama called Top of the Lake – China Girl. Have you been watching it? I highly recommend it.   Apparently, Jane Champion did a lot of research into brothels and the sex trade and she actually managed to get into a brothel, which is not an easy thing for a woman to do.   I was struck also by her portrayal of a punting forum – a group of men sitting in a cafe, with their laptops open, discussing their experiences of various prostitutes they had been visiting  in one particular brothel.   As I mentioned in my earlier blog article on sensual massage forums, this bonding among men on punting forums, where they share information on the sensual/sexual services they have been receiving, came as a shock to me when I first found out about their existence. To my knowledge, this is the first time that punting forums have been portrayed so openly and honestly in a movie.   The Guardian describes them as follows: ‘… and the ghastly porn-surfing bros who congregate at a cafe with their laptops, harassing the waitress and cackling over… Read more »

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tantra holidays

    Tantra Holidays are important for our masseuses What I mean by tantra holidays, is that they need to take breaks every now and then, to restore their energy. We only have one masseuse working every day, except Thursday, which is when we have our special 4 hand massage offer. Most other agencies have many more masseuses on their books, so with them, you can probably easily make last minute bookings. We have been getting booked up well in advance and many of our clients need to plan ahead of time, especially those coming to London from other cities in England and from abroad. I have been asked quite a lot recently,  why I don’t take on more tantric masseuses. But it is not easy to find the right ones. Also, I have always been very particular, and insist on selecting and  training our tantric masseuses with a great deal of care. Since some holidays are coming up, I thought I would outline them now, in advance, to make it clearer for all clients re. who will be working on which days.   Lakshmi will be away from July 14-31, so she will not be available during that period…. Read more »

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tantric massage and mindfulness

Tantric massage and mindfulness have become buzzwords Both terms are used a lot nowadays, but few people really know what either of them mean. Mindfulness is being promoted by university professors, spiritual leaders, celebrities, as well as the NHS. It is being recommended to overcome depression, stress and over-thinking. But what is it? And what is its connection with tantric massage?   Since mindfulness really comes from the Buddhist tradition, here is a quote from Thich Nhat Hahn, the inspirational Zen Master: “Living mindfully and with concentration, we see a deeper reality and are able to witness….. without fear, anger or despair.”   Jon Kabat-Zinn, a famous American Buddhist teacher of mindful meditation, puts it like this: “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally…… it is being alive and knowing it.”   And in the words of Bodhipaksa: “Mindfulness is the gentle effort to be continuously present with experience”   So different teachers explain it in different ways. For our purposes during a tantric massage, it helps us to be aware that we are not our thoughts. With the help of deep breathing, we can connect with ourself in a more… Read more »

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male and female sexual energy

The difference between male and female sexual energy has intrigued us throughout the ages. We only have to look at current book and newspaper titles to see that the subject is still on our minds:   – Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus – The Secret to Mind-Blowing Orgasms – How Men’s Brains are Wired Differently than Women’s (from Scientific American) – Nurture your Feminine Side (The Chopra Centre) The ordinary male must ejaculate often   or he will become frustrated, emotionally irritable and have little control over his mind. However it is not necessary that the build up of sexual energy should cause such symptoms. It is possible to learn to circulate the energy throughout the entire body, leading to a strengthening of the entire energy body and a rejuvenation of the physical. Through Tantric meditation, one can radiate orgasmic states throughout the entire body with or without a partner. Exchanging sexual energy with your partner and circulating and blending it throughout your bodies simply cannot be compared with ordinary orgasm With ordinary orgasm a small amount of sexual energy is built up and then released from the testicles in men and the ovaries in women,… Read more »

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search engine optimisation for tantric massage london

  Since I no longer practice massage these days, I spend a lot of my time on admin type work, which includes research on search engine optimisation for tantric massage london.   What that means is figuring out how google rewards websites by placing them at the top of search for a particular phrase or word. Naturally every website wants to be found by as many people as possible who may be interested in their services. In the field of tantric/sensual/erotic massage there is a huge amount of competition nowadays, not to mention all the escorts who have taken to labelling themselves as tantric massage agencies. Google are said to have their own algorithms to help them figure out how relevant a website may be. Since this is a secret algorithm, many SEO companies have been created specifically to make a living out of advising clients on how to create websites which will be ‘liked’ by google. Since I have time on my hands, and since I find this study quite interesting and challenging, I make a point of observing which websites in our field are doing well on search, and I try to figure out the reasons why. Our… Read more »

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Valentine's Day

  Valentine’s day is coming up soon It is one of those holidays which holds loads of hidden expectation for some, and can be a day of dread for many singles who don’t have a partner to share it with. Some people tend to dismiss Valentine’s Day as a commercial fanfare. According to some recent studies, women are not that into Valentine’s Day: their partner usually wants to have sex, whereas 43% of women have no interest in shaking up their bedroom routines, and 35% are more excited about the cuddling than the sex itself. 34% would rather spend the night watching TV than getting it on….. Valentine’s Day can evoke pressure for women to please their partners at the expense of their own desires. 23% of women said they hated having to shave or wax for their significant other, and 11% wished they could skip out on the lingerie. However, below is an article written by a female married journalist, with an opposing view: “Gents, I will let you into a little secret. When a woman says she doesn’t care about Valentine’s Day and doesn’t want to celebrate it, don’ believe her. If she practically insists on you not… Read more »

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tantric massage schedule

Our tantric massage schedule will change for the 3 weeks from January 16th. I shall be taking a break during that time and  Celeste will be taking my place . She will be’The Boss’ during those three weeks. Please don’t expect the phone to be answered as rapidly as usual, or emails replied to as promptly, because Celeste will be working doing massages as well as doing all the admin work. In fact, you may get a better response by email than by phone during those three weeks. Also, Jyoti will be away from January 16-25. She will be doing a tantric training course in Germany, and we are all looking forward to hearing about it, and learning what new techniques she may discover. ___________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________________   Mon Jan 30  : CELESTE Tue Jan 31  : CELESTE, JYOTI Wed Feb 1   :  EDEN Thur Feb 2  : JYOTI, CHANDRA Fri Feb 3 : JYOTI ______________________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________________

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Happy peaceful and healthy New Year

  Merry Christmas and all our best wishes for a happy peaceful and healthy New Year to you all. We would like to give a big Thank You to all our clients – we love and really appreciate all the wonderful and unexpected gifts we have received from you, and we look forward to seeing you all again in the New Year. 2016 has been a particularly eventful year. Apart from devastating wars and displacement of refugees, the world has, in one year,  lost so many of our Rock and Pop icons , movie stars and tv stars. The Uk voted for Brexit, and the USA voted in Donald Trump. It feels somehow, like the end of an era and the beginning of a new one. Let us see what 2017 has in store. Inspite of all the craziness and turmoil in the world outside, and the daily stress of London life, one of our main aims has always been to maintain a haven of peace, calm, and tranquility here. This has been an exceptionally busy year for us and we realise that many of our regular clients have not been able to make bookings because we have been booked… Read more »

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xmas holidays at tantric massage london ikensington

  Re. Xmas Holidays at Tantric Massage London Kensington We have been getting a lot of questions about our opening hours during the Xmas holidays. So to clarify, we will be staying open during that period, from Monday-Friday as usual, except naturally for Xmas day and Boxing Day. We have  also been actively seeking a replacement for Uma who has had to return home. We do hope she will come back to us in the New Year, but nothing is certain at the moment – so in the meanwhile, we have been looking for another tantric masseuse to join us. Our special offer four-hand tantric massage is still extremely popular, and clients are asking for it to be available more often. We have now taken on a new masseuse, Chandra, and will be offering a special Xmas offer with her and Jyoti. This offer will extend for four Thursdays, from December 22-January 12, and will be £140 for a one hour four hand massage. Please keep an eye on our schedule on this website, which is always updated at the end of each week. It will always be kept current, but you may need to clear your computer cache in… Read more »

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tantric masseuse uma

  Sadly, our tantric masseuse Uma will be leaving us at the end of November   Uma has been extremely popular with our clients during the 6 months she has spent with us. She has been completely booked up for the whole time and I have received many compliments for her.   Many clients do not want to place testimonials on our website, for personal reasons,  but they have privately told me how wonderful her massages are. Uma has to go back home to sort out some family affairs, and she is not entirely sure how long that will take her. We do hope that she will be able to return to us in a few months time, but at this point nothing is certain. We are looking for another masseuse to replace her, but Uma has set a high standard, and we may not be able to find someone right away. Uma’s last day with us will be November 30 so if you would like an appointment with her before she leaves, she will be available on Wednesays and Thursdays and also Tuesday November 29 and Wednesday 30 which will be her last day. It would be advisable to book… Read more »

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love and sexual energy

  Love and sexual energy are deeply connected in ways that many of us are not aware   The ancient Greeks, who were highly sophisticated, had six different words for love, each with a slightly different meaning: Eros or sexual passion – this was not thought of as necessarily positive, the way we do today. Eros was viewed as dangerous, fiery and irrational, as it could take hold of you and possess you. It involved a loss of control. Philia or deep friendship, which was valued far more than Eros or basic sexuality. Ludus or playful love was the affection and type of flirtation seen between young lovers, or at the beginning of a relationship. Agape or love for everyone. This is selfless love – an ideal sought in religious traditions. Pragma is the mature longstanding love which includes deep understanding and develops between long-married couples. Philautia is love of the Self. The Greeks were a very advanced culture and knew that there are two types of self love. One is narcissistic and childish, and the other requires deeper self knowledge – in other words, we can only love others to the extent that we really know and love ourselves…. Read more »

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tantric massage video

  Our tantric massage video which is on the home page of this website has quite a history behind it.   I decided to have a video made many years ago because at the time, we were offered a discounted deal by one of the directories we had subscribed to. I hadn’t had the website for very long, so I was quite new to anything to do with websites. The rep/salesman from the directory had put quite a bit of pressure on me to have it made, and after some consideration, I also thought it would be a good idea. I felt it would give future clients the opportunity to see the environmnent they would be coming into and although we were not going to take them through the intimate details of the massage, they would be able to get a feeling of what to expect. The first step was for the video company to pick someone to come over to our place to actually film the video. However they kept delaying things and giving us strange excuses over several weeks. They finally admitted that they couldn’t find anyone among their regular staff willing to make it, because since the… Read more »

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sensual massage forums

  Sensual Massage forums are used by several of our male clients Sometimes that is how they find about us in the first place. Personally, I was totally surprised when I first discovered that these forums exist and that their ‘raison d’etre’ is to enable punters to share information about the various sensual massage providers that they have visited. I have always felt that a tantric massage session is a personal, private and intimate experience. So it came as a shock to discover that intimate details of the massage were being discussed on an online forum and that personal remarks were being made about me, my surroundings and the masseuses who work here. I discovered that some men enjoy this form of ‘male bonding’ –  the transparency and communication and sharing of feedback. There seemed to be an anonymous online camaraderie and a desire to communicate intimate details and to steer other members away from providers who did not live up to their standards – a genuine desire to be helpful to one another. The conversations sometimes become unpleasant and even gross and they often use their own acronyms. Male egos are on full display. I suspect this may be… Read more »

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tantric massage

  What are you looking for in a tantric massage?   From speaking to our visitors over many years, the following seem to be essential:   1.The premises should be beautiful, comfortable, clean and private. You want to avoid a seedy bedsit at all costs, and you do not want to knock into other clients. It is also helpful if the place is easy to find, centrally located and hopefully with parking, taxis or public transport nearby.   2.The masseuses should be talented in their profession, they should have pleasant personalities and enjoy what they do. They should also listen to you and adapt the service to your individual needs. They should be attractive both inside and out. You want to feel that they are being authentic and that you can relate to them as a person.   3. You are looking for the very best service, from the point of view of ease of communication in making the appointment, reliabilty and consistency of quality. You also appreciate discretion and maybe that extra special ‘something’ which cannot be described in words.   4. You do not want to feel rushed or hurried.   5. If you are a regular client,… Read more »

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tantric massage kensington in central london

  Come to us for a tantric massage in Kensington Central London Visitors to London will discover that we are in one of the most sought-after residential areas in Central London. Clients often ask us where we recommend for lunch or dinner after their appointment. Of course, we always advise them to come for their massage on an empty stomach, but after their appointment, they have a huge choice of nearby restaurants and cafes as well as tourist attractions. There are so many cafes and restaurants nearby, we are really spoiled for choice. Our masseuses are constantly slipping out to get a coffee from Starbucks, and Sainsbury and Waitrose are just nearby for lunchtime grocery shopping. Or, a little further away, on Kensington High Street with its upmarket shops, you can find the largest Wholefoods Market in London, with several restaurants on its first floor. Just around the corner from us is the highly recommended Evoluzione, a high class Italian restaurant. And just 5 mns walk away, near Gloucester Road underground station is the well-known Bombay Brasserie There are also less pricey but also excellent restaurants, depending on your taste – The Lotus Garden an excellent Chinese restaurant near Earl’s… Read more »

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Eden tantric massage london gallery

Many of you have been trying to make advance bookings for tantra massage with Eden   Eden has decided to study for a new career, and this will be taking up a lot of her time in the future. However, for now, she will continue to offer tantra massage with us on various days to fit in with her new studies. To find out when she will be here, please check our Gallery page. which will give you our masseuses’ schedule one week in advance. Eden has been a very popular masseuse with everyone in the past 3 years and we do hope she will be able to continue to work here for at least one day per week in the near future. For the time being, she will be offering our 4-hand special tantra massage on Wednesdays with Uma, who joins us this week. You will find a couple of photos of Uma and a brief description of her experience on our Gallery page. Eden may also be able to replace the other masseuses when they go away on holiday, so please keep an eye on our weekly schedule, which will always be posted one week in advance. For… Read more »

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secrets of tantric massage

    What is the secret of Tantric Massage? Are there any secrets left in our modern culture, where answers to anything can be found at the click of a mouse? Bede Griffiths, the British Benedictine monk who lived in India and became a noted yogi, said: ‘For me, the great discovery in India is the discovery of the sacred. In india, everything is sacred: the earth is sacred, food, water and taking a bath are all sacred, a building is sacred.’ What does this really mean? Here in the west, we have lost this understanding and attitude. We have become used to instant gratification. But the problem with instant gratification is that the experience does not last….By its nature it is fleeting – and one desire leads to another and another and another…… Sacredness implies honouring a deeper part of ourselves, which leads to more permanent contentment, fulfilment, inner peace and the feeling of total satisfaction .The experience of being in the moment, rather than doing. This is what we all really want, but there is an underlying pressure in our society to strive to compete, to achieve, to spend , to perform . These are the things we… Read more »

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tantric massage and sexual confidence

    Can tantric massage boost sexual confidence? First one needs to understand what sexual confidence really is.   We could all start by asking ourself the question: ‘Am I a sexually confident person?’   Following is a pertinent quote from Osho,  who was a  popular guru, sometimes known as the ‘sex’ guru’ of the seventies: “ All religions have turned man against his own energies. Sex is man’s whole energy, his life energy. So through condemning sex…. and preventing the orgasmic experience, religions have made men and women slaves. And the basic strategy is :’because sex is the most powerful energy in you, sex should be condemned, a guilt should be created. Then the individual has a split….. his nature is sensuous, sexual and his mind is full of garbage against it. So man is afraid of sex as far as the mind is concerned, but his biology has nothing to do with the mind.The biology has its own way of functioning, so it will draw him towards sex and his mind will be standing there continuously condemning him. So he makes love, but in a hurry. He is hurrying because he feels he is doing something wrong. The… Read more »

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