walt whitman

    “This is what you shall do: Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to everyone that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others, hate tyrants, argue not concerning God, have patience and indulgence toward the people, take off your hat to nothing known or unknown, or to any man or number of men—go freely with powerful uneducated persons, and with the young, and with the mothers of families—re-examine all you have been told in school or church or in any book, and dismiss whatever insults your own soul; and your very flesh shall be a great poem, and have the richest fluency, not only in its words, but in the silent lines of its lips and face, and between the lashes of your eyes, and in every motion and joint of your body.” –from Preface to “Leaves of Grass” – Walt Whitman (1855)

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map of the vagina

  This map of the vagina is for your convenience Vaginas are a source of mystery and fascination to most men. Questions about vaginas, the location of the clitoris, what women like and dont like, are questions which are often asked in our tantric tuition sessions. At first, clients can be hesitant or embarrassed to ask the questions they really want to ask, feeling that they should probably know the answers. They feel that at their age, they should have learned whatever there is to know. However women’s bodies are a mystery, even to women themselves. So it is not surprising that there is often a lack of open communication amongst couples. Maybe it is easier to discuss these things with a person who is neutral and non-judgmental, and experienced enough to be able to answer any question about a woman’s anatomy, and what most women like and do not like. Celeste offers tantric tuition sesssions at our beautiful studio in Kensington on mondays and tuesdays. She will be available on December 8, 9 , 15 and 16, before she goes away for one month at Christmas. She will be back in the New Year, on Monday January 19th. Why… Read more »

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institute of sexology

‘The Institute of Sexology’ is a new exhibition which will be held at the Wellcome Collection, 183 Euston Road, London NW1 2BE, starting on November 20th Their website states invitingly : Undress your mind and join us to investigate human sexuality at ‘The Institute.’ The Institute of Sexology is a candid exploration of the most publicly discussed of private acts. It will be the first UK exhibition to bring together the pioneers of the study of sex. You may have read our earlier article on the tv programme Masters of Sex. This exhibition will tell the story of the study of sex through all of its pioneers, from Freud to NATSAL. It highlights the profound effect that the gathering and analysis of information can have in changing attitudes and lifting taboos. In the 1930’s, Berlin was the world capital of sexual liberation, well-described in Christopher Isherwood’s novel: ‘Goodbye to Berlin.’ Isherwood lived in Berlin in an apartment owned by Magnus Hirschfeld’s Institute for Sexual Science. Hirschfeld was known as the ‘Einstein of Sex.’ He formulated dubious aphrodisiacs and anti-impotence medicines, and his Institute was decorated more like a wealthy private residence than a scientific establishment, with Persian carpets, a grand… Read more »

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happy diwali

Diwali, the festival of lights is celebrated by Hindus, Jains and Sikhs (on 24-28 October this year – dates vary according to the Indian lunar calendar) has become increasingly popular and mainstream in the UK. India loves its holy holidays, and during Diwali, which coincides with the Hindu New Year, a lot of time is spent on decorations, fireworks, food and also wearing new clothes on the day which represents the triumph of good over evil. Depending on who you talk to, the significance of the day may be explained in different ways. The great sage Ramana Maharshi said that Diwali signifies the shining of our true Self, after the destruction, through self-enquiry, of the Ego, with which we tend to identify. Due to our latent tendencies, we see the world in a certain way, and this becomes habitual. But when we practice self-enquiry, we eventually discover that our inner Self was always there, shining and bright, and that is our true nature. The Bhagavad Gita says ‘the light among lights……. said to be beyond darkness and called God by some, is the embodiment of knowledge, worthy of being known….. and dwells in the hearts of all.’ One of the… Read more »

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hard on in public

  Getting a hard on in public is a very male problem   This article is taken from the blog of Ruby Jane May, with thanks to her and to Drew Larson who drew our attention to it.   “Coming out: my love of public hard ons.”   “There is something about this article that touches me. Male desire is generally something that is boasted about. The more potent you are, the more of a man you are.   Unless of course it comes at an inappropriate time or place. There is something about the volatility of arousal and our inability to control it, that gives the publicly aroused man a sense of vulnerability – not something usually associated with male sexuality.   Virile easily tips into a sense of being ‘perverted’. Pride into embarrassment.   As a woman, observing these images and taking the time to slowly absorb their content, I enjoy the desire they evoke in me. By admiring these delightful displays of obstinate arousal and the interplay between pride and shame, ‘objectifying’ them to an extent, the tables are turned.”   What do you think?   I wonder how many women think and sympathise with men over… Read more »

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student in vagina

      US student is rescued from giant vagina sculpture in Germany You may have read about how a young American in Tubingen, Germany got trapped inside a giant sculpture of a vagina and  had to be rescued by 22 firefighters  -The statue, Chacán-Pi (Making Love), is the work of Peruvian artist Fernando de la Jara and has sat outside of Tübingen University’s institute for microbiology and virology since 2001. It’s valued at $173,000. I just had to mention it on here, because it made me laugh so much ! Police confirmed that the firefighters-turned-midwives delivered the student ‘by hand and without the application of tools.’ “We were able to pull the victim out with our bare hands after about 30 minutes,” said the rescue chief, who could not help but add that a “forceps delivery was not necessary.” The town’s mayor told a local paper that he could not imagine how the boy got caught, “even when considering the most extreme adolescent fantasies,” adding, “To reward such a masterly achievement with the use of 22 firefighters almost pains my soul.” ‘It was a dare’ said the squad leader of the local fire department. ‘The young man had tried… Read more »

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massage and meditation for children

Massage and mindfulness, in my opinion, should be taught to children as early as possible. In India, children are massaged from very early on, and I wonder whether this is one reason for their flexibility in yoga. Luckily, this attitude has been catching on in the West, and naturally, most children love being massaged. As an example, ‘Peaceful Touch’ is a concept that was begun by the Axelsons Institue in Stockholm, Sweden. It was intended to help and spread the effects of human touch within society, and especially aimed towards the younger generation, to reduce and prevent violence and distress. Since its introduction into schools, it is now used by more than 10,000 trained teachers in Sweden. Here is a touching testimonial: “I have introduced massage in my class since the children were very busy and inattentive. The children appreciated those quiet moments very quickly . Only David couldn’t stand any physical contact, he always kept aloof, while he showed his disapproval, until one morning he came to join our session. After choosing Laura, he gently attentively massaged her. After this Laura massaged him in turn and he turned out very relaxed. David has really enjoyed that session today. Even… Read more »

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tantric telly

‘Tantric Telly: how to heighten box set pleasure’ is the title of an article which appeared recently in the Evening Standard. The word ‘tantric’ is being used in more and more peculiar ways. I can sympathise with editors – there must be a lot of pressure to come up with new and original articles to fill their newspapers. Now they are resorting to using ‘tantric’ as a buzzword with an open-ended range of bizarre meanings. The author’s contention is that by controlling oneself and not gorgeing on all the episodes of our favourite box sets in one go, we heighten the pleasure with delayed gratification. In her words: ‘A few nights ago in a London flat, a twentysomething couple were getting pretty involved. But right as they verged on climax, one suggested lights out for bedtime — leaving things on a cliffhanger. The drama would begin again tomorrow evening, made all the sweeter by waiting. This couple are not the young disciples of a certain Sting and Trudie — though their methods are tantric in approach. This is the practise of tantric boxset: killing the action just when things are about to explode. It’s edging — or “orgasm control” —… Read more »

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mindfulness and tantric massage

Mindfulness has been hitting the headlines recently Today’s Guardian mentions that Ruby Wax joined politicians in parliament for a spot of mindfulness practice. Sceptical MPs have joked it is becoming “a cult in parliament”, but mindfulness meditation stepped into the political mainstream today when MPs and peers gathered at Westminster, closed their eyes and went silent for a minute. “Connect with the breath, wherever it feels most strong,” intoned the meditation. “For the full duration of the in-breath and the full duration of the out-breath.” It was just a taste of what 95 MPs, peers and parliament staff have already experienced on mindfulness meditation courses inside parliament. The practice – based on Buddhist meditation but updated for secular users – is catching on across a stressed-out Britain. Ruby Wax has become the poster girl for the benefits of mindulness meditation She has been travelling around the country, doing her one-person comedy, yet serious act discussing mindfulness.She now has a masters degree in it. Lord Andrew Stone told the meeting he used it to steady himself after he became “scared” when he was dispatched to Cairo for meetings with Egypt’s military leadership earlier this year. “I didn’t know how to cope,”… Read more »

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happy easter

    Happy Easter to everyone.   All the masseuses at Tantric Massage in Kensington would like to wish our clients a very happy and enjoyable Easter break. The photo above is of an Easter gift from one of our regular clients, which brought a ray of sunshine and joy into our hearts and into the clinic…… We will re-open next Tuesday.      

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elusive orgasm

Women’s orgasms are very different to those of men, and have been a mystery to men and women alike. Tantric massage is not supposed to concentrate on genital orgasm, but on  experiencing the powerful feelings of energy and bliss which circulate in the body,accompanying sensual arousal,  and which can lead to total body orgasm. However, today in the age of communication, more and more books and articles are being written about various aspects of  the female orgasm. Below we describe 3 different ways of helping women to achieve orgasm – the traditional way – via a new app -and a new medical invention. Does this sound familiar: MAN: Finally gets to go downtown and fumbles to get his hand where it counts. MAN: Starts random up-and-down or circular motion, hoping to God he can hit the spot and not be surprised. WOMAN: Moans and man thinks he’s doing well. WOMAN: Stops moaning. MAN: Shifts technique or goes into overdrive, and woman asks him to slow down. MAN: Slows down. Five seconds of mild positive response later, nothing. MAN: Feels like a dog trying to open a door with no thumbs. WOMAN: Gently stops his increasingly erratic attack after 10 minutes…. Read more »

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tantric yogassage

  Have you heard of tantric yogassage? I hadn’t either, until I read an article in the Daily Mail, about Bold and Naked Yoga, which is being run in a studio in Chelsea, NY. The idea is to celebrate our bodies, not to be sexually evocative. When all the students are naked, there is no competition regarding clothing – everyone is the same. Apparently erections during the class do occur, but very rarely – and they encourage that when it does, its OK and nohting to be embarrassed about. It will pass quickly….’once we start moving there is no way an erection could be sustained because of the physical nature of the Vinyasa Yoga.’ You can attend co-ed classes or single sex classes and in the tantric yogassage classes, participants are fully clothed. Since I have never heard of tantric yogassage, I decided to look it up. On their website: www.boldnaked.com, they say that tantric yogassage is the most powerful synthesis of assisted tantric yoga poses and innovative bodywork, to experience the art of touch and energy in motion. It is about letting go, deepening your experience and allowing the flow of energy. The same could be said of tantric… Read more »

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first kiss

The ‘First Kiss’ video was filmed in less than a day. It is a beautifully executed black and white film of 20 strangers kissing for the first time and was inspired by photographs taken by the late, great photographer, Richard Avedon, of people kissing. The short film clip by filmmaker Tatia Pilieva, portrays the excitement, anticipation and awkwardness of that first kiss. It is actually very moving in an unexpected way and has caught the imagination of viewers, generating millions of youtube views and social media shares in the past 24 hours. However, in reality the video is an ad for LA fashion company Wren. Melissa Coker, founder of Wren, and Tatia Pilieva thought it would be ingenious to capture complete strangers in the act. Coker said that she likes to create concepts that have a value of their own: ‘I don’t want to see any close-ups on shoes or skirts, or boring things like that.’ Several musicians, actors and models star in the film and noone knew they were going to be kissing until they turned up. All the women wear Wren clothing, but there is hardly any emphasis on the brand. The result is a candid display of… Read more »

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sex therapy joke

A sex therapy joke, thanks to facebook: A couple, both 78, went to a sex therapist’s office. The sex therapist asked: ‘What can I do for you?’ The man said ‘Will you watch us have sex?’ The doctor looked puzzled but agreed. When the couple finished, the doctor said: ‘There’s nothing wrong with the way you have sex’ and charged them $50. This happened several weeks in a row. The couple would make an appointment, have sex with no problems, pay the doctor, then leave. Finally, the sex therapist asked ‘Just exactly what are you trying to find out?’ ‘We are not trying to find out anything’ the husband replied. ‘She is married and we can’t go to her house. I’m married and we can’t go to my house. The Holiday Inn charges $90. The Hilton charges $108. We do it here for $50 and I get $43 back from Medicare !’

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breathing in tantric massage

  Breathing in Tantric Massage. Is it an erotic practice?   The breath is all important. When we stop breathing, we die. Yet how many of us are really aware of our breathing ?   A rapid, shallow “stress breath”, breathing from the chest, prepares us to fight or flee. It is part of the autonomic nervous system response to stress. It stops us from feeling, as our attention is directed towards the external threat.Our digestion stops and sexual response is inhibited. All our mental energy is directed towards the external environment – we disassociate, we feel shut down, frozen and numb.   Shallow breathing allows us to shut down our emotions so that we can fight or flee more effectively.   When we learn to breathe from the belly, or from the diaphragm, which is how we are meant to breathe, we also feel a fuller range of emotions   Deep full breathing can also release tears and laughter. Simply acknowledging and breathing into a feeling, can clear it.   Through deep breathing, we can learn to practice detachment, with mindful awareness of our emotions – and this is very empowering.   The practice of conscious breathing can alleviate… Read more »

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tantra

Tantra is probably the one of India’s yoga traditions which has become the most sensational, exotic and dramatic. It has come to fascinate the mind of the modern western world and has been interpreted in the most bizarre and entertaining ways. Tantra seems to offer us everything – plenty of heightened pleasure in sex, money, healing, in fact there are tantra methods for achieving all human desires. And what is more, one doesn’t have to renounce anything or become an ascetic as in other yoga traditions, because tantra is supposed to encompass everything. However, as in all things, we need to learn discrimination. We need to find out the difference between real Tantra and the superficial distortions which have become the norm in popular culture and are easily found everywhere. But how to tell who is a genuine teacher? The ‘New Age’ has embraced Tantra. There are so-called spiritual teachers on every street corner nowadays.New Age approaches to massage, body work, pranic healing etc. may have health benefits, but they do not lead to the deeper understanding and experience which require intense spiritual practices of meditation, mantras, pranayama…. True Tantric teachings are extremely deep and profound and include some of… Read more »

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sensuality

What do you think about sensuality? Do you consider yourself to be a sensual person? The truth is that we are all sensual beings. This is the way we were intended to be – so that we would be able to feel  the multitude of experiences that life is constantly offering us. But throughout time, religion and culture have been in charge of transforming our experience of our own sensuality. At what point in history was it that we, as a whole, decided to become thinking beings instead of feeling beings? I remember this question being raised in the 60’s when an entire generation broke away from the habits of their parents, who were perceived as traditional and repressive, and began to experiment with drugs, new psychological theories, rock and roll, and ‘letting go.’ The idea was to live in the moment, to just be and feel and experience. This is also when the Neo-Tantric movement began to gain popularity. But what is happening today? Have we become more attached to our mobile phones, tablets and apps than to our partners? Have we forgotten how to really connect with others by actually looking them in the eye and experiencing them as… Read more »

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