What are you planning to do on Valentine’s Day this year?
I will be leaving for the warmth, sunshine and spiritual inspiration of India. But for those of you who will be staying in London, what better way to treat yourself than to experience the peace and bliss of your own inner sunshine.
Rather than spend the evening in an over-crowded, noisy restaurant or bar, why not REALLY enjoy yourself and book an ecstatic tantric massage session…If you have a partner, you could also have a tantric tuition session together, or if you dont have a partner, an individual tuition and tantra coaching session with Celeste is available here, in our lovely tantric massage studio in Kensington, Central London, or, if you prefer, in your hotel room.
While you decide, here is some light-hearted advice from a couple of agony aunts.. on one of the most asked about questions regarding people’s sex lives:
X: Have been in a relationship for five years now and have a rather difficult problem. The trouble is the longer it’s gone on the harder it is to actually tell him. Despite having a good regular sex life, my partner has never made me come – sadly not even close! What worries me is that he doesnt seem to have noticed! (while gladly getting his own satisfaction of course!). I dont’t know how to even bring up the subject now as, like I said, too much time has gone by. What should I do?
Agony Aunt: He’s never made you what? Come? Come where? Where is it you want to go exactly? OK, I’m joking – obviously I know everything about the cliteron and j spot and stuff…. So , seriously now, I think there are two possible reasons for this - a) he doesn’t know, or b) he doesnt care.
You better hope it’s a). Not every man can be a sexual virtuoso. Some chaps have just never really honed their technique, or been shown how to. So do everyone a favour – show him! Also, while some men will ask “how was it for you?”, others will just assume. So while you’re keeping schtum about your frustration, he’s probably bragging to his mates that he’s ‘never had any complaints (wink, wink)’.
As for option b), many men are habitually lazy, whether it’s inducing sexual ecstasy in a spouse or fixing the leak in the bathroom. It’s not necessarily that he’s disinterested or even incapable, but if he can get away with not doing the extra work, he won’t. Unless someone tells him to.
So my suggestion is to create a situation where you can organically slip it into conversation. For example, watch a TV show about orgasms on BBC3 together, then you can remark ‘Ooh theysound good, I wouldn’t mind having one of those’. He may react with incredulity, embarrassment or utter confusion, but it’s a conversation you need to have.
Agony Uncle: Five years? my friend this is as close to a tragedy as I’ve heard since they cancelled the Bill. Life is rearely a Jackie Collins novel… but come off it.
As tempted as I am to lay all the blame ( and a tantric sex manual) at his door, you have to take a hand in this as well, probably literally. If you have been ‘faking it’ all this time, then I’m afraid you’ve made your bed, which is why you’re now lying in it, bored and resentful. Men aren’t mind readers, and if he thinks you’ve been enjoying yourself, then you’ve effectively been lying to him and you’re going to have to pluck up the courage to come clean if you’ve got any chance of coming at all.
Most importantly, do you know how to make yourself come? If not, then that’s probably the main issue. If you don’t know, then how would he? If you do know, then for heaven’s sake show him…. Tell him and then show him. Sometimes men don’t understand what women feel during intercourse as they are lost in their own worlds….. we’re not mind readers and we’re probably a LOT less experienced than we put on…. He will appreciate it as you will be more satisfied and it will make the sex more exciting. Make him work for it more. Men love to chase and ‘trap’ their prey…
Clear an evening, phones switched off… so its just the two of you….. make a nice dinner…. take the matter in your own hand…make it an exploration of each other and then either show him or lead up to it by telling him and asking him what he would like as a treat…. Once the penny drops with him, there will be no looking back. Always surprise your man occasionally, it keeps him on his toes… and give a sexy frisson to your relationship.
In our experience, an even better suggestion – once you’ve laid aside a special evening just for the two of you, prepared the dinner and organised the room with candles etc. – is to give him a tantric massage, and then ask him to give you one. You can direct him and show him what really pleases you. He will be delighted to learn and to see you truly turned on …….
Happy Valentine’s Day !
There have been many predictions for 2012, based on the Mayan calendar…. but on this first day of a new year, I am reminded of what is really important and the essential teachings of the great sage Ramana Maharshi, who was born on December 30th 1879.
Ramana encouraged us to practice Self Inquiry by asking ourselves Who Am I? Instead of constantly looking outwards for answers and solutions, he suggested we look within and discover the ‘I’ which is the source of true happiness. At a time when we may be inundated by expectations and pressures to spend, buy presents, celebrate with friends and family, be happy when we may not necessarily be feeling that happy, eat drink and be merry, it can be inwardly nourishing to remember the true meaning of celebration.
“What exactly is this Self…? To understand this matter, it is first necessary for a man to analyse himelf. Because it has long been his habit to think as others think – he has never faced his ’I’ in the true manner…. he has too long identified himself with the body and brain. Therefore, I tell you to pursue this enquiry: ‘ Who am I’…….. when a man knows his true Self for the first time, something else arises from the depths of his being and takes possession of him. That something is behind the mind; it is Infinite, Divine, Eternal.. Some people call it the Kingdom of Heaven, others call it the soul, Hindus call it Liberation. You may give it what name you wish. When this happens, a man has found himself… Unless and until a man embarks upon this quest of the true Self, doubt and uncertainty will follow his footsteps throughout his life….
What is the use of knowing about everything else when you do not know who YOU are? Men avoid this enquiry into the True Self…. if you meditate on this question ‘Who am I?’ … if you begin to perceive that neither the body nor the brain nor the desires are really you, then the very attitude of enquiry will eventually draw the answer to you out of the depths of your being…. Know the Real Self and then the Truth will shine forth within your heart like sunshine. The mind will become untroubled and Real Happiness will flood it, for Happiness and the True Self are identical. You will have no more doubts once you attain this Self-awareness.”
- The Life and Teachings of Sri Ramana Maharshi -
And on a lighter note, do enjoy the following short video: Happy New Year by Abba from their 1980 album Super Trouper (remember to turn on the sound)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=fvwp&NR=1&v=-0oLG2WMWrg
There will be some changes in our schedule for the coming year.
Sita will be leaving us at the end of this year, and we send her all our good wishes for the future.
Ella will be available for tantric massage on Mondays as well as on her other scheduled days, starting on January 2, 2012. Do check our blog, which will be updated at the beginning of the year with the new tantric masseuse schedule.
We also look forward to welcoming a new tantric masseuse, Sophia who will be available on Thursdays and Fridays. Sophia has been a tantric masseuse for 4 years, and is highly qualified, with an ITEC massage diploma and a diploma in Lomi Lomi massage . She has also taken numerous courses and tantra trainings, including the John Hawken training. She is currently working part-time at the Ananda Tantric Massage Centre in Koln, Germany. Below are some of her photos :
Many of you have been asking whether we will be open during the Xmas period. We will be closed on December 25th and 26th . If anybody would like an appointment on the 27th, please let us know in advance.
Ella will be away from December 24- December 29 . She will be available again on Friday December 30th. On the days that Ella is away, Celeste and Sita will be here and both our trainees will also be available on their usual days. Our trainees, Tara and Shakti, are also available to do massages on their own, at your request. Please let us know at least one day in advance.
In the New Year, we will be having a guest masseuse joining us for a couple of days. Look out for her photos and bio which we will be posting on here soon.
Ella recently had some new photos taken, and we are posting them below:
Amazingly, it will be Xmas in just 2 weeks’ time. Shakti is off to Italy to celebrate already, so next week, our ’special offer ‘four- hand tantric massage’ with her, will be on Friday December 23rd, instead of on the usual Wednesday.
Celeste took some fun photos of Shakti and Ella today and we thought we would share some of them with you. Watch out for some more new photos soon..
I have discovered that after writing this blog for over 2 years, I sometimes feel I have covered most of what I want to say and there is a lack of inspiration for new subjects – if any of you have ideas or questions, please do email them to me, and I can respond or elaborate with an article on the blog. Naturally, for reasons of discretion, no names will ever be included.
We often get phone calls from new clients, asking us to describe our services. You will find answers to the majority of these questions by reading the existing articles on this blog. You can browse through the articles by clicking on the various archives and categories in the left hand column on this page.
In the meanwhile, here are some new photos of our pretty young trainee, Tara, who is currently taking classes to gain an ITEC diploma in massage, as well as training in tantric massage, here with us at Tantric Massage London in Kensington, near Earl’s Court.
I received this card today and thought I would post it here for everyone, and in particular those of you who enjoy foot massage!!
Happy Diwali
‘You cannot change your future, but you can change your habits, and surely your habits will change your future.’
- Dr. Abdul Halam
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We are always interested in your feedback, so do feel free to let us know …. and I am always available for a chat with a cup of tea after your session, if you have anything you would like to ask or discuss.
Celeste has gone on holiday to Italy for 2 weeks. While she is away, both Sita and Ella will be available every day during the week (monday-friday) for tantric massage appointments. We will also have our special 4-hand tantric massage offer on Wednesdays and Thursdays.
Celeste will be back on October 10th.
Then it will be Ella’s turn for a holiday. She will be away from October 8-17, and during that period, both Sita and Celeste will be available every day during the week (monday-friday) for tantric massage appointments.
If anyone would like to plan in advance for either tantric massage tuition, or tantric massage for couples, we can start taking bookings again from October 10.
We would like to welcome Tara, our lovely new trainee, who will be available for 4-handed Tantric Massage on Thursdays with either Celeste or Sita, for our special price of £150 per hour.
