We get countless telephone calls from potential new clients who suddenly decide to find out about tantric massage while they are driving their car, or just walking on the street….They ask all sorts of questions and when I suggest that they look at our website, which will provide all the information they need, the answer usually is :
‘I cant because I’m driving’ or
‘Im on my mobile and can’t access your site‘… or
‘a friend gave me your telephone no. and I dont have the website address‘….. etc. etc…
I have just come across a really amusing video, which is a funny sketch of what happens during a first tantric massage session. Dont be put off by the cartoon characters – it really is quite true to life…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sWQiquk6VUA
Click on the link, and turn on the sound – Enjoy!
If you’ve been reading the newspapers recently, you will have been struck by yet another flurry of stories about famous men and their affairs: Arnold Schwarzeneger and his ‘love child’, Chris Huhne and the speeding ticket, Dominique Strauss-Kahn the ex-head of the IMF and then there is the ‘famous footballer’ who was finally named – there was even an article in the Independent entitled “Is Anyone Faithful Any More?” in which a relationship expert states that “nowadays we have a problem with instant gratificiation” and the internet is partly to blame – “It’s so easy to hook up on the internet.”
The article also quoted John Gottman, emeritus professor at the University of Washington, who is probably the world’s leading expert on relationships and marital stability. One of his most interesting findings concerns gay relationships: “in 200 years heterosexual relationships will be where gay and lesbian relationships are today – crucial in these relationsips is honesty about sex….. Gays and lesbians are more honest. They talk explicitly aobut monogamy and sex and are more mature and honest and less fragile in talking about it.”
In our tantric tuition sessions, we have also found that honesty in communicating is so very important. Couples who want to learn to relax more together and improve the sensual side of their relationship are discovering new communication skills and ways of increasing intimacy, whilst learning to give one another a tantric massage.
In the words of Eckhart Tolle: “When listening to another person, don’t just listen with your mind, listen with your whole body. Feel the energy field of your inner body as you listen. That takes attention away from thinking and creates a still space that enable you to truly listen without the mind interfering. You are giving the other person space – space to be. It is the most precious gift you can give. Most people don’t know how to listen because the major part of their attention is taken up by thinking. They pay more attention to what is going on in their own mind, than to what the other person is saying, and none at all to what really matters: the being of the other person, underneath the words and mind. Of course you cannot feel someone else’s being except through your own. This is the beginning of the realisation of oneness, which is love. At the deepest level of being, you are one with all that is. Most human relationships consist mainly of minds interacting with each other, not of human beings communicating, being in communion. No relationship can thrive in that way and that is why there is so much conflict in relationships.”
What Eckhart Tolle is saying is, in part, tantric philosophy. Discover who you really are – the ‘you’ beyond your mind, the place in the heart from which you connect with love, and you will feel at one with everyone. Your life will become filled with love and harmony.
So you could take a first step and learn to give your partner a sensual massage – it is a wonderful way of learning to connnect. When you give a sensual massage, you are automatically using your inner intuition and you are listening with your body. You are ‘feeling’ the person rather than trying to analyse or mentally understand them.
I loved the TV series called The Sex Inspectors which took a detailed look into the sex lives of couples who were in long term relationships. The show’s presenters, Tracey Cox and Michael Alvear, prescribed a series of tasks, techniques and tips to help the couple have the kind of sex which leaves them satisfied. Many of the tips could have come straight out of a tantric massage manual. It was a fascinating programme, particularly because it achieved such phenomenal results, and couples whose relationship was becoming boring and had lost its spark, were re-united and rekindled their original feelings for one another. According to a commentator: “The Sex Inspectors could be seen as a means of helping couples experience the kind of jump start to their sex life which is often achieved by having an affair”….. they should have added: or by learning tantric massage……
Below is a short video clip of Michael Alvear giving some humourous but practical advice to men on the issue of premature ejaculation:
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x6q5r3_premature-ejaculation-how-to-make-y_fun
nothing to do with tantra
I just thought you might enjoy the humour in the photos and Walt Disney equivalents above, which have nothing whatsoever to do with tantra or tantric massage , but will amuse those amongst you who watched the royal wedding.
tantric tourists - the movie
I discovered this hilarious sounding movie while browsing the internet over the Easter holidays, and I ordered the DVD. It has just arrived in the mail.
We will all be watching the movie here, at Tantric Massage London in Kensington on this coming Thursday at 9 PM. It is just over one hour long.
We have room for a maximum of 10 people to join us, so if you would like to come and watch the movie and eat some popcorn, please telephone us to reserve your slot.
This invitation is open to all our clients who have already received a tantric massage from us here in Kensington.
To watch a trailer of the movie, click on the following link:
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- eva, devi and celeste doing their xmas dance
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- devi and father xmas
tantric massage london - Sting
Some of you may have read my original post on Sting, written on March 27th on this blog:
http://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/sting-the-singer-who-made-tantra-a-household-name/
Today, I discovered a new article on Sting’s views on women, which I find very interesting - Sting practices tantra yoga and recognises that women are superior to men in many ways!!
Here is the article:
STING COULD LIVE AS A ‘ SEX SLAVE’ IN A WOMAN’S WORLD - CTV News Monday November 22nd 2010
Sting wishes he could live as a ‘sex slave’ in a world run by women.
The Police frontman woud be happy if females were the dominant gender in society with him fulfilling their erotic fantasies.
The musician – who is married to film producer Trudie Styler and is famous for practicing Tantric sex – said “I’ll say the standard misogynist thing, I dont like women drivers very much, but I prefer to live in a world run by women. I just take my hat off to a superior form. I’m very comfortable with the idea of women being superior in many different fields. The way they navigate the world is something I admire. All this striving for machismo power, its f***ed up. We’d be better off if it was run as a family. I’d be happy being a sex slave in that kind of society and write the odd song.”
Although he fantasises about being a sex slave for powerful women, Sting – real name Gordon Sumner – insists he is still very much ‘in love’ with his wife, who he has been in a relationship with for almost 30 years and with whom he has four children .
He explained: “We’ve been together 30 years and luckily we’ve evolved in a compatible way. We’re both different to what we were. I want that to continue and pray every day that it does. She might get sick of me. If she sees more of me she gets sick of me. I dont’t (get sick of her). I love her. She’s great.”
Personally, I think Sting should be commended for discussing his views and experience of his tantric practices in public. He has greatly contributed to a wider understanding and acceptance of the subject.
If you want to have a really good laugh, watch this hilarious comedy sketch of Roman Danylo giving a Tantric Sex Seminar and shaking in the throws of erotic tantric bliss!
tantric guru roman danylo
click on the link below
slow sex
We will be continuing with the theme of slow sex, a term made popular by Carl Honore who has written a book called ‘In Praise of Slowness’ .
But for now, as an introduction and in a lighter vein , do click on the following link and watch this video, which I think is funny:
http://www.collegehumor.com/video:1927276
I enjoyed reading this article, partly because of the underlying humour, and partly also because it highlights some of the paradoxes that we all face in our lives.
Here are some snippets from the article:
‘Every man faces the battle between the urge for monogamy and promiscuity…’
‘The wish to be free and the wish to belong…. the difficult bit has always been balancing the yearning for an impressive sexual CV and the longing for a wife, family and home….’
‘Some men stay early… some men stray late…. And men spend a lifetime trying to negotiate a peace settlement between these most basic of instincts…’
‘Some men stray for a bit and then they settle down. That is what many women find difficult to accept … sometimes a man strays not because he is a heartless fornicating bastard, but simply because he hasnt yet met the right girl…’
The author then gives examples of 3 well-known men:
- Tiger Woods: ’ I thought I could get away with everything I wanted to…. I felt I had worked hard and deserved to enjoy all the temptations around me…’
- Paul Newman: ‘You dont go out for hamburger when you have steak at home.’
Warren Beatty : ‘Look at Warren Beatty. Warren is not going out on the pull tonight. Because once you have had enough sex, the staying is better than the straying.’
The author comes to several conclusions…. he says : ‘ Men go out for a Big Mac when they have prime fillet waiting at home, they go out for fishfingers when sushi is in the fridge…….. we could save ourselves – and our girlfriends and our wives so much trouble if we could have a period of wanton straying, followed by decades of blissful staying…. if you are wise, if you are lucky – you get to that Paul Newman moment when you say ” you know what ? I am really sick of bloody fishfingers.”…. but to get to that Paul Newman Valhalla – you need to have had your fill of hamburgers. There can be no staying without the straying ………
The tragedy is that sometimes men get it all the wrong way round. They do their staying. And then they really get stuck into their straying…..
The staying should never be second best, the staying should matter more than the straying… the staying is what the straying should lead to…… however it doesnt work that way. Our twin basic instincts must forever live together in uneasy peace, punctuated by periods of bloody conflict. The need to stray and the need to stay – This is the Middle East of the male soul.’
Look out for our response to Tony Parsons….during the next few weeks, we will be writing some articles on sex therapy and the Tantric Tuition and Tantric Healing sessions we offer here at Tantric Massage London, which hopefully deal with some of these issues….
