dream lover
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Tantric Tuition for Women
Little girls are brought up with the romantic idea that one day they will meet their knight in shining armour, who will sweep her off her feet, love her for ever, and life will be wonderful ever after.
We have been spoon-fed these romantic images, by novels, movies and our culture in general.
But the reality, or the inside stories, reveal something very different going on under the surface.
clark gable
Novels like Lady Chatterley’s lover, which was banned when it was first written, have now been read by most schoolgirls. The tragedy of Romeo and Juliet is part of our culture….. as is Walt Disney’s Cinderella singing ‘Some Day My Prince will Come.’
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some day my prince will come
We all know about the love life of famous politicians like Robert Kennedy, millionaires like Howard Hughes, footballers, starting with the first ‘pop’ footballer George Best, latin lovers like Rudolph Valentino and Clark Gable, and the most famous womanizer of them all, Casanova.
howard hughes
But what is it like being married to these men … They may be able to sweep women off their feet initially, but what happens after that….?
It must be very difficult, if not impossible, for anyone to live up to the the huge expectations which are built up in the minds of both men and women, by our culture.
Fortunately, sex education is prevalent in schools nowadays, and most teenagers know a surprising amount about the mechanics of sex. But does anyone teach them about their emotions, getting in touch with themselves at a deeper level, and learning to communicate in an honest way?
george best
Because of the more complex nature of women’s bodies, emotions and minds, many men view women as somewhat of a mystery, even after having been married to one for many years.
Many women experience difficulty or inability to orgasm, and because this comes as a surprise to the woman herself, she often doesnt understand herself what is happening, and finds it even more difficult to talk about her concerns to her partner.
Here, at Tantric Massage London in Kensington, we offer a safe and supportive space for women to explore and discover their own bodies at a deeper level, and this enables them to communicate more openly with their partner about their needs. It is difficult to tell your partner what your needs are when you yourself are not sure. Many women experience sex or sensual contact as a reaction to a male initiating intimacy, and trying to adjust and respond to whatever pace he sets – which is often too fast for her, and does not allow her to fully relax, surrender and build up the sexual energy in her body to its full potential.
Prior to the massage, I have a short chat with the client, in order to enable her to explain any details she would like to go over, or anything in particular that she would like to focus on, and I tailor the session to suit her. I ensure that she is comfortable enough to be able to verbally or physically guide me and give me feedback if she wishes at any stage of the session. I have found that when a woman is comfortable enough to communicate with me, it not only helps me, but can enable her to discover her own body in a safe, non-judgemental or rushed setting. I combine subtlety, sensitivity and a well-developed intuition, without being too delicate – not every woman likes feather-soft touch, not every woman likes firm touch. It is the finely tuned combination of all types of touch, interwoven in a complete full body massage, that provides the key to our tantric massage and tantric tuition for women.
A woman instinctively knows how to touch a woman and what feels good. Our tantric massage for women is a full body, sensual experience which allows the space and time for a client to feel her body in a unique and very special way.
There is no need to give back, or to do anything – the idea is to completely surrender into receiving pleasure and there is no pressure or need to perform and please. The tantric masseuse ensures that you are completely comfortable throughout, and has an innate understanding of how to listen and respond to a woman’s body. A combination of soft, light, deep and firm full body strokes, relaxes the body and mind. The sexual energy is awakened and progressively built up, entwining the breasts and yoni(vagina)massage. Speed and pressure are balanced, to enhance the full body experience and the session is tailored individually for each client. I will respond and work within whatever you are comfortable with. If you are wanting to completely let go and explore your own body – or if you want to go at a different pace – there is no right or wrong way to experience a Tantric Massage.
Sometimes women can “think” themselves to orgasm. As women generally take longer to reach a climax, they may have a tendency to try to hurry it up, and impede the full sexual/sensual potential of their body. By removing the pressure to please the giver, or being pressured to have an orgasm, you can actually focus on opening up to your sexual energy in your own way, at your own pace, with no pressure or need to give back. This may sound self-indulgent to some, but the truth is that by experiencing your own body at a deeper level, you will have a more tangible reference point from which to communicate or demonstrate your needs to a partner, and this in turn will give him more pleasure. We have found that men are delighted to be told what to do to please their partner, and even more delighted and aroused when they see her really in touch with, and enjoying her own body.
Tantric Tuition for Men
Part 1 – Tantric Tuition for Men
When men ask for a tantric tuition session, the two main things they want to learn more about are:
1. Ejaculation Control
2. How to really give pleasure to a woman
1. Ejaculation Control
Many men experience concerns with premature ejaculation in some form or another during their life, and hope to learn some techniques to help them to last longer. A large majority find that when they are simply lying on the massage table, with no pressure to perform, their ‘premature ejaculation’ problem disappears, and they are able to last naturally for far longer than they thought, with no special effort on their part.
There are several reasons for this. A lot of so called premature ejaculation issues arise from the pressure to perform and please a partner. When that pressure is removed, very often the problem evaporates. We encourage our clients to get in touch with their passive side and experience the feelings and sensation in their body, and to enjoy receiving unconditional touch – where there is no need to respond or reciprocate. In this way, a man can learn to let go fully. A lot of the time, men feel that they should be responding, that they should be the doers, and sometimes this becomes so ingrained that they are afraid that they will not be turned on if they cannot look at a beautiful woman’s naked body, or touch the masseuse. However, once they begin to experience the currents of energy flowing through their body, and get carried away in a total body orgasm, the last thing on their mind is to touch the masseuse. They become totally absorbed in the sensations within their own body.
Naturally all men are different, and their responses will vary. We do teach some simple breathing techniques which help with general relaxation, and are helpful for premature ejaculation. We also ask our clients to communicate with us and to let us know if they feel that they are about to ‘come’ at any point. This enables us to regulate the pressure we use, and help them to get to the point just before orgasm (the plateau phase) and then to relax, and we then slowly build up the pressure again. We do this several times, building up the energy within the body, so that the orgasm, when it comes, is much more intense than usual, and encompasses the entire body, rather than being just a fleeting localised feeling. Some men do not need to ejaculate, and experience what is known as an internal orgasm.
We let the tantric tuition session evolve in a very natural way. We do not believe in imposing techniques, but enabling the body to re-learn how to relax and let go. A lot of issues around premature ejaculation involve the person’s mind, and tendency to worry, and having to learn a whole load of new techniques could add to this worry. We have also found that once a client is able to last longer in this way with us in our tantric massage studio, it is as if he has become ‘rewired’, and it is much easier for him to replicate the experience at home, with his partner. It is , however, important for his partner to also take things very slowly, relaxing into arousal, and maybe breathing in harmony with her spouse, to keep the pace nice and slow. It is very important not to fall into a pattern of ‘ being in a rush’ which is what so often happens.
2. How to really give pleasure to a woman
We have had many female clients complain to us that their partner does not touch her gently or sensitively enough and does not really understand how to turn her on, or how her body works. Often also, our male clients are aware of the fact that their spouse has lost interest in their sexual relationship. Part of the cause can be a lack of communication skills. Partners do not feel comfortable telling one another that they are not really enjoying the way they are being touched or treated. In our tantric tuition sessions for men, we show our client how to touch a woman, what feels good and what doesnt, and we allow them to practice on us. We also make suggestions about how to communicate some of these issues to their partner in a way which might be more acceptable or understandable. We instruct them on how to give a tantric massage to a woman, and how to lay out the ideal setting for a tantric massage in their own home.
We have received a lot of positive feedback on these tantric tuition sessions for men, and after only one or two appointments, many clients report a noticeable improvement in their sex life at home. Several clients have followed up on their training, and subsequently brought their wives to our tantric massage clinic, to experience our tantric tuition session for couples, together.
tantric therapy
This will be the first of a few articles on our Tantric Tuition /Tantric Therapy sessions that we offer here at our Tantric Massage studio in the heart of Kensington.I would like to first of all lay the groundwork of all our thinking.
There is a lot of confusion nowadays, about esoteric terms such as chakras, kundalini, shakti, etc. and all of a sudden, numerous so-called experts have sprung up, writing articles on these subjects. Nowadays, it is too easy to read a few articles or books, and overnight become an ‘authority’ on subjects such as tantra. Only a truly realised master can convey the truth on these subjects – and again, in today’s world, one needs a lot of discrimination in order to tell who is a truly realised master, and who is not.
This is why we do not claim to raise your kundalini… we do not call ourselves Tantric Goddesses and we do not indulge in talk about chakras or rituals.
During the past 35 years, I have been involved in a deep study, firstly of the many branches of transpersonal and humanistic psychology. I qualified as a co-counsellor, and also as a Fischer-Hoffman therapist in California. I have also spent time living in the company of many of the great Hindu, Buddhist and Sufi masters of our day. I have also qualified in Thai massage, Swedish massage, and have experienced and looked into many other branches of massage which are popular today. And I received one-on-one training from a Malaysian Taoist master in Los Angeles.
All this forms the background and experience which we offer to our visitors at our Tantric Massage clinic in Kensington. In recent years, London has become a hub for all kinds of massage. There has been an influx of masseuses from eastern Europe, Thailand, China, etc. They often work for a pittance, in so called ‘medical centres’ or some form of massage parlour, where they are paid a minimum wage, and offer sensual massage or erotic massage ‘extra services’on the side to their clients in the hope of a tip, to make up for their scant earnings.
I find all this very sad, but it is a fact of life in London today. The reason I mention all this, is to clearly differentiate between a sensual massage, or an erotic massage, where a masseuse will pour oil over you and rub her body against you and the type of service we offer here at Tantric Massage London in Kensington. I hestitate to use the term ‘tantric massage’ because in truth, massage has nothing to do with tantra, and so-called ‘tantric massage’ which is on offer today, has nothing whatsoever to do with tantra, in the true sense of the word.
What most people are seeking today, is relief from symptoms of stress – whether the stress comes from their jobs, relationships, sexual/physical/psychological/health problems, or simply the stress of modern life and keeping up with its constant demands.
Massage will help to relieve symptoms of physical stress in the body. Sensual or erotic massage can alleviate the effects of sexual frustration. But a masseuse or therapist who has a background and practice in meditation and yoga , can work with your subtle energies in a totally different and much more subtle way. You will find that your mental as well as physical concerns and troubles can vanish, as if by magic.
Celeste has been working for me here at Tantric Massage London, for 2 years now. She was qualified and experienced in Swedish massage and Thai Massage as well as Reiki, before she joined us. I have trained her and taught her all I know, and she has proved to be a remarkable student.She now offers tantric tuition and tantric therapy, as well as regular tantric massage for men,women and couples. I have asked her to write and describe the sessions she is now offering, and those articles will soon be published on this blog. Do look out for them.
